Help I am an Empath and it Hurts!

As men and women that are trying to function in a day-to-day life in this busy world, we come into contact with other people all the time.    If you have ever been told you are an Empath, meaning you can feel and sense others emotions, then you know sometimes it can get too be too much. 

Take a look at the picture above and choose the picture that you feel describes you the best.  Below we will discuss what each choice can mean and a message for you on where you might channel your energies.

Hand holding on to FIRE

You may be an angry empathic.  You got very tired of it hurting so much that you decided to fight back.  Justice and fairness are very important to you and you will fight for the little guy, because you identify with them so much.  You probably started by becoming sarcastic to reflect the pain and cover it up with a joke, but then you became sarcastic more and more until it turned to anger.  You may now have a short fuse, hate explaining yourself and police other's activities.  That is the bad part.  The good news is that you would be amazing to help others find their own voice.  When you rescue them they find your voice not their own. 

The key here is to remember that you got hurt before you got angry.  Address the hurt not the anger.  People deal better with hurt people than angry people.  Allow yourself to be venerable with the right people.  Most Empaths are telepathic and can sense and read other peoples thoughts.  Remember that others cannot and it is vital that you take the time to actually talk and communicate with them.  Soothe the root chakra so it does not have to be so defensive and use the 4-7-8 breathing techniques.

The Isolated Monkey

Oh my dear little Empath.   You have such a gentle soul and you are not a fighter.  It hurts when you watch TV shows that have violent and when you see a sad picture, it can physically hurt your heart.  When you saw the monkey you probably thought AWWW and just wanted to pick him up and cuddle him to tell him everything is going to be all right.   You my friend get overwhelmed and need your down time away from it all.  This is a beautiful thing to do, just make sure you do not do it too much that you start to not like people because you cannot control your emotions.

Have compassion yes, but wounding yourself and hiding is not the answer.   Make sure you get out and interact with people that do what you love.  Find a hobby and join others in it.  Most isolated Empaths like to read, well find a book club.  If you are going out and feel overwhelmed simply breath out love instead of taking in second hand emotions.  Expand yourself with love instead of hiding in fear.  Fear attracts fear and love attracts love.   You are amazing at getting others involved and including them.  Getting the wallflowers off the wall is your gift.  You will do it gently and passionately.  It’s ok little monkey, you can come play.

Praying Kitten

The people pleaser.  Please, please, please like me.  You are busy running around living everybody else’s life, trying to make sure everybody else is happy that you forgot to make yourself happy.  You do not respect your boundaries and say yes when you say no.  This makes you resent the people you say yes to when you should say no.  You will feel unappreciated and taken advantage of.  Please love yourself.  You would do amazingly well  volunteering so you can hear THANK YOU more often and feel appreciated.  You make great teachers and leaders but have to let people fall down sometimes so they can learn to stand up or you will be taking care of them the rest of their lives.  The best thing we can give somebody is trust in themselves.   A great tip for Empaths is being able to draw a line in their giving.  Try this:   “I can’t _________________ (whatever they are asking you to do that you don’t want to do), but I can do _________________________, (something you are more comfortable with).”  For example; “I can’t take your dog all week but I can take them Friday night and Saturday”.  You offered to help but stayed in your limit and now you will be happy to help out.  Let people adjust to the new you.  Those that like taking advantage of you will try to make you feel bad, it’s ok.  Watch them, bless them and then bless yourself.  Pleasing yourself is more important than pleasing them. 

Guilty

Everything is your fault.  No matter what you do, you feel it is not enough.  You may even surround yourself with people that take advantage of you and blame you.  Your throat chakra is probably pretty closed and you do not know how to communicate what you need.  You suffer in silence and it is time to stop saying it is ok to hurt you.  It physically hurts you to watch pictures of people suffering because you feel you personally have to save them.  I am sorry, but these Empaths are the types that would stay in abusive relationships trying to SAVE the other person.   You have a very tender heart and would work amazingly with children and animals because you feel safe with them and they will not hurt you.  You would be free to love in these cases.   Learn to accept responsibility for what is yours and for what is NOT yours.  Take baths in Epson salts as the magnesium helps with the anxiety.  When you go to bed at night instead of thinking of everything bad or wrong that went on, start imagining again.  Think of how amazing it would feel to be doing what you love to do.  Problem is most of these Empaths are so busy with what everybody else wants they do not know what makes themselves happy anymore.  Explore this at night.  Play instead of worry.

One of the biggest mistakes I see Empaths do is Protecting and Shielding themselves.  Why is this a mistake?  Tune into the radio show to find out what to do instead.

We hope this helped.  If you would like more information on coping tips for Empaths, please check out our TRUE2YOU radio show for a free class.  Live call in show is this Sunday January 10.

Namaste,

New Years Resolutions: Little Tricks that make A BIG difference

January 1st, what a special day.  It is a day where we welcome in the new and get rid of the old.  Resolutions are famous to be made this day and next week is even more famous to break them.  Why do we make them?  We want to make changes we really do, but then why don’t we? 

Most people are striving to better themselves and their lives and that is a great goal.  The reason why most resolutions fail is that you reach too far too fast.  If you love sweets and you say,  “ I am going to cut out all sugar starting NOW”, is that realistic for you? Are you setting yourself up for failure by being too hard on yourself? When a resolution seems like a punishment not a reward, you do not want to do it.  The little rebel in you says, “ You cant tell me what to do” and grabs the candy or the latte.  What if you instead tell yourself to educate yourself about sugar and cut back?  The human mind does not like to fail and our fragile ego punishes itself when we fail and we give up.  What if you set little goals and met them instead?  The mind would celebrate your daily victory instead of punishment.  Just a side note, those that want to get off sugar, understanding what it is really doing to you is the best bet.  Don’t try to force yourself not to like it, it works better when you do not want it.  Check out YOUTUBE and the documentary BIG SUGAR.

Let’s start you out by some simple things that will make a big difference in your life.  They are simple, but need consistency and awareness. 

1. Take 3 deep breaths 3 times a day.  What this does is it starts telling the reptilian part of your brain that everything is all right.   This part of your brain is responsible for that fight or flight mechanism. Try it out and tell yourself while you take those three deep breaths that everything is all right.  You are being aware of your mind and your thoughts and programming a sense of wellness and safety instead of doubt and fear.  Your body will thank you for it.
2. Stop complaining.  Once you become aware of how much you are complaining you will understand how your thoughts create your reality.  Most of you reading this will think that you do not complain often at all, and will be surprised how it creeps into your life.  A good idea is to let somebody close to you know you are trying to not complain so they can help you when you slip up.  This does not mean you do not have a right to question or ask for information, but no whining while you do it.  Be fair, be concise and tolerant.
3. When you wake up drink a big glass of cold water.  First your body is dehydrated when it wakes up, and hydration is key to functioning and gives you more energy.  It also flushes out toxins.  When you sleep your body repairs itself and balances out hormones.  The result is some stuff that is no longer needed needs a way to get out of your body.  You will think well as it refuels your brain.  Your brain is 75% water so drinking more feeds it.

I am not asking you to change your world because the calendar flipped over.  All you have to do is breath, stop complaining and drink a glass of water.  You can do that right?  You will live longer, be happier and feel a sense of satisfaction every day.  Being a better you is being kinder to yourself, not punishing yourself.  You can do it.  After all you are awesome already. 

Happy New Year!

Namaste,