Fastest and Simplest Way To Stay Postive Around Negative People. A Must Read For Sensitive Souls.

There you are just trying to be happy.  Minding your own business and then BAM you hit one of these guys.  They people in your life that seem to constantly complain, are grumpy and POOF, there goes your good day.  You went from feeling great, to feeling anxious, to upset, and to angry or sad yourself.  How does this happen?  I have one simple answer for you, and it might surprise you.  It has nothing to do with them at all.  It is all you baby.

Ready?

YOU JUDGED THEM

Yep,  Your energy changed because YOU judged them.  You stood in front of what they put out and classified it either as good or bad.  This is not your natural state, and it takes a lot of energy to judge somebody.  You have to put yourself in the situation or stay in it if it comes to you.  You have to feel what they are feeling.  You have to decide if you like it or not.  You have to decide if it's about you, (most of the time you think it is).  You take it personally.  You defend yourself.  You dont want to think you are bad or wrong so now you have to go from defending to attacking.  You have to get a few blows when they defend your attack and that hurts... ouch.  You have to decide when to stop the back and forth.  If you dont like confrontation you will try to numb yourself so it does not bother you.  Then you have to recover.  Phew.  That sounds like a lot of work doesn't it?

You have no idea what is going on in their life.  What if that "gumpy" woman is really a tired mom who was up with a sick child all night and is not grumpy at all but just really tired and worried about her child?  You deemed her grumpy.  She really is a loving person who loved so much she left nothing for herself and then is giving what little she did had at work instead of calling in sick herself.   Do you still feel like she is a grumpy person that you can roll your eyes at?  The boss that just ran by you and ignored you when you said good morning may have just a phone call that is his wife after 8 years of trying is pregnant and is running home to hug and cry with her with tears of joy.  Yeah, you are right, he is so stuck up and he does not like you at all.  

DON'T JUDGE THEM, BLESS THEM.  NOT ONE TIME, EVERY TIME

Judging them just shows that you are ignorant to the situation, you may have unrealistic expectations of people, you think you are better than them, you are not being grateful, you are self- centered, are closed off and perhaps  LIKE judging people as a pass time.  Ouch.  Sting a bit?  I know you dont mean to do any of these things.  Perhaps it is time to pay more attention to what you are doing than what they are doing.   You are not helping them, or yourself by adding to the situation without knowing what is going on, even your opinion of what is going on.  Let's look at it differently.  If a man is drowning, you would not bring him water.  He needs the opposite.  He needs land.  If a house is on fire, you do not bring a match or more fire, you bring them them opposite.  You bring water.  If you think somebody is angry,  does it make sense to bring more anger?   The only way you will know is to ask.  To reach out and connect with an open heart.  For example,  "Hey Kevin, I saw you slamming the door and when Karen said good morning to you, you rushed right by her.  You are such a nice guy, I wanted to make sure you were all right since this isn't your normal behaviour.  Are you ok?  Is there anything I can do?"  Now what Kevin says to you after this is out of your hands, but you handled it with grace and fairness. This takes NO energy at all because this is who you are. You are not the judging and punishing kind.

Let's look at some ways to stop judging:

Bless instead of judge.  Your brain cannot do two things at one time.

Be less critical on yourself.  Those that are self critical are outwardly critical to others.

Replace the judgement with a positive, true statement.  "I don't know what is going on with so and so, but I hope they are doing better soon"

Catch yourself when you are assuming things, not knowing things

Be more compassionate

Stop keeping track or giving and taking away points.  When you do something for somebody you do it for peace and kindness not to get one up on them

Use "I" statements instead of "you" statements. 

If you want to give constructive criticism try saying something they did well, the way to do even better, and praise something again.  They need to hear more good stuff than bad stuff to feel you were not just judging them.

and finally

If a cow moos, let them moo.  If a cat meows, let them meow.  The cat is not a bad cow because it meows;  it is a good cat.

Let people be who they are and who they need to be.  We cannot be afraid to express our emotions and feelings because we think people will not like us if we are honest.  Now if somebody is abusive, they do not  have the right to physically hurt you.  Verbal abuse is hurtful.  Remember though, that you don't have to believe what they say.  You only become it if you believe it.  People do not defend what they know to be true.  They know it is the others illusion that is at play, not their own. 

I want to share a bracelet with you that I made to help people always stay in the light even when other's are in the dark.  It has such a wonderful holographic look to these crystals that it will help you to see through the illusion that you feel the need to judge, and keep you in a positive light.

Click Here To See The Bracelet. Bet It Makes You SMILE

Here is a YouTube video with Gregg Bradden explaining how to deal with the world around you with compassion.

Clearing Exercise For Empaths

When we rub a balloon on our head and our hair stands up and sticks to the balloon, we see electricity and atoms in motion.  It is pretty neat how rubbing an object against something else can cause such drastic changes. 

Did you ever think that if your hair can be affected so much, that other parts of you could be as well?  Your hair in just a few seconds can be changed.  Imagine your heart. 

Your heart has the largest magnetic field of any place of your body and is more sensitive than your hair. Are you walking around "rubbing" against people and your heart stands on end but because it is internal you cannot see the dramatic results? What if you could? Would you continue to allow this to happen? Would you go to work with your hair sticking up like that, totally out of your control? Probably not. Let's take a look at a simple, fast, yet effective exercise we suggest you do to help clear your heart energy.

For this exercise you will need a crystal.  Most empaths hold onto other's energies because they do not want to give off negativity to other people, places or even things. They feel it is their job to be a conduit of pain, to take others pain and be the keeper of it till they can absorb it and take it away at any cost to their own joy.  Let me assure you that this is not the case.  Your job is not to take pain, but to evolve into joy.   To be an example of joy and love.  The crystal will help relieve any anxiety of who gets the energy you no longer need.  We will give it back to Mother Earth who will transmute it into peace.  I dont mean to be graphic here, but think of a bathroom.  When you go to the bathroom you flush the toilet right?  You get rid of what your body no longer needs by putting it into a vessel and clearing it.  You are not the world's emotional toilet.  You are a vessel of peace.  Treat and honour yourself, as such and your world will change.

Pick a crystal that you are drawn to for this exercise.  Do not analyze it, just pick it up because your body and your Spirit said you needed that one.  Then find out what that crystal means.  This is where being a beginner is so wonderful because you are totally unbiased and pure in your choice because you do not know what all the crystals mean just yet.   You can look on the internet for amazing sites that explain crystal properties for free.  

Take the crystal and put it in both hands and hold your hands to your heart.  Ask that Spirit, The Universe, God or the Angels, whatever your affiliation may be, to walk with you and help renew you to your original state of peace.  Start with taking 3 deep breaths to calm you.  You do not want to do this with anxiety or stress because then it is released with tension and judgment instead of peace and unity.

This is where you let the crystal and your Higher Self do the work.  You may be holding onto things without realizing it and if you get too specific here and ask for 

"Any terrible energy for Trevor that broke my heart, get out of my heart now!", you are stopping Spirit from clearing out perhaps anxiety that you have carried with you for so many years because your father left you at a young age.  The universe cannot go against your free will so they can only do what you ask and leave the rest.

A better statement is " I ask with much love and gratitude that all things that are not of my doing and being, that is no longer serving me, be released into this crystal as a conduit of peace and compassion.  I give it back to Mother Earth and the Divineness that lives in me,  honours the ability to transmute this energy back into peace"

Imagine little pieces of energy in whatever colour the crystal is, in your body.  See the crystal as a magnet and it is calling all pieces, wherever they may lay in your body, back to it.  Think of it as an emotional vacuume. You know you are done when there are no more flickers of energy of that crystal colour in your body that you can see.  Take the crystal from your heart and run it under cold water for a few minutes and see the energy running back to Mother Earth.   If your crystal is compatible with sunlight, place it in the sun for the day to charge it.  If it is not, use moonlight instead.  Either or, is all right.  

That's it.  Simple, effective yet powerful.  You can do this.  If you are extremely anxious and overwhelmed you may feel the need to do this twice a day.  After that you can do it only when you need to.  

We hope this helped you understand that you are not an emotional dumping zone and to respect your place in the world, even if others do not yet.  

Namaste,