Help I am an Empath and it Hurts!

As men and women that are trying to function in a day-to-day life in this busy world, we come into contact with other people all the time.    If you have ever been told you are an Empath, meaning you can feel and sense others emotions, then you know sometimes it can get too be too much. 

Take a look at the picture above and choose the picture that you feel describes you the best.  Below we will discuss what each choice can mean and a message for you on where you might channel your energies.

Hand holding on to FIRE

You may be an angry empathic.  You got very tired of it hurting so much that you decided to fight back.  Justice and fairness are very important to you and you will fight for the little guy, because you identify with them so much.  You probably started by becoming sarcastic to reflect the pain and cover it up with a joke, but then you became sarcastic more and more until it turned to anger.  You may now have a short fuse, hate explaining yourself and police other's activities.  That is the bad part.  The good news is that you would be amazing to help others find their own voice.  When you rescue them they find your voice not their own. 

The key here is to remember that you got hurt before you got angry.  Address the hurt not the anger.  People deal better with hurt people than angry people.  Allow yourself to be venerable with the right people.  Most Empaths are telepathic and can sense and read other peoples thoughts.  Remember that others cannot and it is vital that you take the time to actually talk and communicate with them.  Soothe the root chakra so it does not have to be so defensive and use the 4-7-8 breathing techniques.

The Isolated Monkey

Oh my dear little Empath.   You have such a gentle soul and you are not a fighter.  It hurts when you watch TV shows that have violent and when you see a sad picture, it can physically hurt your heart.  When you saw the monkey you probably thought AWWW and just wanted to pick him up and cuddle him to tell him everything is going to be all right.   You my friend get overwhelmed and need your down time away from it all.  This is a beautiful thing to do, just make sure you do not do it too much that you start to not like people because you cannot control your emotions.

Have compassion yes, but wounding yourself and hiding is not the answer.   Make sure you get out and interact with people that do what you love.  Find a hobby and join others in it.  Most isolated Empaths like to read, well find a book club.  If you are going out and feel overwhelmed simply breath out love instead of taking in second hand emotions.  Expand yourself with love instead of hiding in fear.  Fear attracts fear and love attracts love.   You are amazing at getting others involved and including them.  Getting the wallflowers off the wall is your gift.  You will do it gently and passionately.  It’s ok little monkey, you can come play.

Praying Kitten

The people pleaser.  Please, please, please like me.  You are busy running around living everybody else’s life, trying to make sure everybody else is happy that you forgot to make yourself happy.  You do not respect your boundaries and say yes when you say no.  This makes you resent the people you say yes to when you should say no.  You will feel unappreciated and taken advantage of.  Please love yourself.  You would do amazingly well  volunteering so you can hear THANK YOU more often and feel appreciated.  You make great teachers and leaders but have to let people fall down sometimes so they can learn to stand up or you will be taking care of them the rest of their lives.  The best thing we can give somebody is trust in themselves.   A great tip for Empaths is being able to draw a line in their giving.  Try this:   “I can’t _________________ (whatever they are asking you to do that you don’t want to do), but I can do _________________________, (something you are more comfortable with).”  For example; “I can’t take your dog all week but I can take them Friday night and Saturday”.  You offered to help but stayed in your limit and now you will be happy to help out.  Let people adjust to the new you.  Those that like taking advantage of you will try to make you feel bad, it’s ok.  Watch them, bless them and then bless yourself.  Pleasing yourself is more important than pleasing them. 

Guilty

Everything is your fault.  No matter what you do, you feel it is not enough.  You may even surround yourself with people that take advantage of you and blame you.  Your throat chakra is probably pretty closed and you do not know how to communicate what you need.  You suffer in silence and it is time to stop saying it is ok to hurt you.  It physically hurts you to watch pictures of people suffering because you feel you personally have to save them.  I am sorry, but these Empaths are the types that would stay in abusive relationships trying to SAVE the other person.   You have a very tender heart and would work amazingly with children and animals because you feel safe with them and they will not hurt you.  You would be free to love in these cases.   Learn to accept responsibility for what is yours and for what is NOT yours.  Take baths in Epson salts as the magnesium helps with the anxiety.  When you go to bed at night instead of thinking of everything bad or wrong that went on, start imagining again.  Think of how amazing it would feel to be doing what you love to do.  Problem is most of these Empaths are so busy with what everybody else wants they do not know what makes themselves happy anymore.  Explore this at night.  Play instead of worry.

One of the biggest mistakes I see Empaths do is Protecting and Shielding themselves.  Why is this a mistake?  Tune into the radio show to find out what to do instead.

We hope this helped.  If you would like more information on coping tips for Empaths, please check out our TRUE2YOU radio show for a free class.  Live call in show is this Sunday January 10.

Namaste,

New Years Resolutions: Little Tricks that make A BIG difference

January 1st, what a special day.  It is a day where we welcome in the new and get rid of the old.  Resolutions are famous to be made this day and next week is even more famous to break them.  Why do we make them?  We want to make changes we really do, but then why don’t we? 

Most people are striving to better themselves and their lives and that is a great goal.  The reason why most resolutions fail is that you reach too far too fast.  If you love sweets and you say,  “ I am going to cut out all sugar starting NOW”, is that realistic for you? Are you setting yourself up for failure by being too hard on yourself? When a resolution seems like a punishment not a reward, you do not want to do it.  The little rebel in you says, “ You cant tell me what to do” and grabs the candy or the latte.  What if you instead tell yourself to educate yourself about sugar and cut back?  The human mind does not like to fail and our fragile ego punishes itself when we fail and we give up.  What if you set little goals and met them instead?  The mind would celebrate your daily victory instead of punishment.  Just a side note, those that want to get off sugar, understanding what it is really doing to you is the best bet.  Don’t try to force yourself not to like it, it works better when you do not want it.  Check out YOUTUBE and the documentary BIG SUGAR.

Let’s start you out by some simple things that will make a big difference in your life.  They are simple, but need consistency and awareness. 

1. Take 3 deep breaths 3 times a day.  What this does is it starts telling the reptilian part of your brain that everything is all right.   This part of your brain is responsible for that fight or flight mechanism. Try it out and tell yourself while you take those three deep breaths that everything is all right.  You are being aware of your mind and your thoughts and programming a sense of wellness and safety instead of doubt and fear.  Your body will thank you for it.
2. Stop complaining.  Once you become aware of how much you are complaining you will understand how your thoughts create your reality.  Most of you reading this will think that you do not complain often at all, and will be surprised how it creeps into your life.  A good idea is to let somebody close to you know you are trying to not complain so they can help you when you slip up.  This does not mean you do not have a right to question or ask for information, but no whining while you do it.  Be fair, be concise and tolerant.
3. When you wake up drink a big glass of cold water.  First your body is dehydrated when it wakes up, and hydration is key to functioning and gives you more energy.  It also flushes out toxins.  When you sleep your body repairs itself and balances out hormones.  The result is some stuff that is no longer needed needs a way to get out of your body.  You will think well as it refuels your brain.  Your brain is 75% water so drinking more feeds it.

I am not asking you to change your world because the calendar flipped over.  All you have to do is breath, stop complaining and drink a glass of water.  You can do that right?  You will live longer, be happier and feel a sense of satisfaction every day.  Being a better you is being kinder to yourself, not punishing yourself.  You can do it.  After all you are awesome already. 

Happy New Year!

Namaste,

Is it Me or is it my Spirit Guide?

We are so happy to be able to be partnered up with True To You Radio in 2015 to be able to offer our services to everybody, near or far.  Every month there will be 4 new shows with topics ranging from Mediumship, meditation, crystals, Angels and more.  We thought we would celebrate today by offering you a little exercise to show you how quickly you can celebrate YOU!

How many of you have heard the saying that you have to just trust yourself and your Spirit Guides?  Trust, trust, and trust.  Sounds easy, but how do you build up that trust?  We struggle with TRUST vs. LOOKING CRAZY.  How do you know it is your Spirit Guide talking to you and not just you talking to you?  Let’s do a simple exercise to start on the way.   Walk with me step by step.  Do not read ahead.

• Take a deep breath and feel the seat beneath you.  This grounds you into your energy.
• I am going to ask you a question and I want you to just blurt out the answers after reading it.   Can you name be 5 different colours?
• That is it.  That was the “test”.   That is not the end of it though.  I want you to sit and notice where your energy sits when you answered that question.  Was it in your tummy, your throat, your bottom, or wherever.  Notice if the answers were fast, direct and confident sounding.
• Close your eyes and take a deep breath and call in your highest white light spirit guides.  It is all right if you do not know who they are, they know you.
• Now I am going to ask you to ask your guides for 5 numbers.
• Really pay attention now.  Where did the energy for those answers come from?  Was it different than where your own energy was?  Did you notice it higher or lower, stronger or lighter?  There is no right or wrong here.
• Now think back if your answers were slower, you were not sure if they were “right”, or even if you shook your head NO as you answered.  Did you use hand gestures that were indicative of frustration or surrendering such as shrugging shoulders? 
• Beautiful if you did.  Why this is you noticed that when you answered you were confident because they were YOUR answers.  YOU came up with them and you noticed where your energy sat.   If you were not sure of the answers it is because they were not your answers, which means they were spiritual answers.

The beautiful part about this exercise is now you can turn your doubt into proof.  How amazing is that.  What you used to throw away and say it was proof that you failed, is now proof that you succeeded.  Your analytical mind was telling your body that it was unsure of the answers because it knew it did not create them.  There was hesitation, body language and doubt.  You do not doubt your own self because you are what is called being self-aware.  Your own mind and body were proving it was not you.  It was your Spirit Guide.

Do this exercise over and over and start to become familiar with the difference of yours and theirs.  The more familiar you are with the difference, the more the doubt brings confidence instead of pain and distrust.

Above all, remember to have fun.  When you tighten the ropes, it makes it difficult to let love flow.  This is easy and you can do it.  You already are but just were not noticing that you were.   Science AND Spirituality combined.  Why pick one when you can have both? 

Maybe they are one?  Maybe our science is just beginning to understand our Spirit.

Namaste,

Teachers open the door, but you must enter by yourself.

You have the key to your mind and your spirituality, but you have to be aware of who you give it to.  We all need many teachers.  It is part of how we learn how to create and respect our own journey.  We cannot accomplish this by comparing ourselves to others who are on their journey, but only focus on where our journey will take us. 

Recently I have had clients come to me with a new problem I wanted to address and share.  They are entrusting the keys to their mind to just anybody.  Most people are well intentioned and loving.  If they want to teach Spirituality it is not because they are mean and egotistically, it generally means their heart is in the right place.  Ask your teacher who their teachers are.  Ask questions.  Do they offer a money back guarantee?  If they won’t stand behind their work, why should you?  I have seen too many times where people have read a book or two, watched a TV show, took a class online or even took one class in person, start teaching.  What are they teaching you exactly?  They are teaching you everything, including their limitations, their fears and their mistakes.  Nobody is perfect, but teaching is very different than experiencing.    There is a surge of Spirituality on our planet right now, and it is so beautiful.  I love seeing people love and learn.  What I do not love is having clients having to come to see me after experiencing something they cannot understand or been guided into fear.

I wanted to share with you some of the things clients have come in with and some suggestions for them that can help you as well if you are not able to come in and see one of our pre-screened, proven and guaranteed staff.

Mediumship Issues

People being TOLD what their gifts are instead of learning for themselves what they are.  Problem is you are doing what THEY are doing not what you are meant to be doing and this sometimes makes it worse because you are going against a natural grain of your life path.  Just because something works does not make it good for you.   Smokers say that smoking helps people relax, by poisoning them.  Great. What helps is to build up trust with your unique fingerprint. Appreciate that your gift is your gift and not meant to be like another’s.   You can only build trust by using it.  Practice.

Ego Issues

I hear it all the time not to let your ego get in the way.  You question is it them or me?  I have had students come in and be told that their own voice is their ego and to ignore it.  My question to them was that if Spirit is trying to talk to you and you are not present, how could there be a conversation?  They were taught to ignore their input and their growth.  Yes you will question, yes you will doubt, it is so they can expand the knowledge and give you more.  Every good teacher invites more questions.  As a result I have seen people SHUT DOWN their intuition instead of opening up the conversation.  You have to be there in this friendship or else it is a dictatorship.  You have free will, so they will never work one-sided.  Stay present; you are exactly where you are supposed to be.  Your inner voice and higher self is not your EGO that should be shunned and placed in a vault. 

Past Life Issues

Being left half in half out of a past life, bringing back the fears of a past life, making up false past lives with another person to make you feel better, awakening something without knowing how to put it to sleep in peace and confusion.  These are all issues that clients have come to me by seeing somebody they did not research well enough.  If you have had these things happen to you, I suggest the following.  Place your right hand over your heart.  Your right is for giving.  I want to give back what is no longer yours in this moment.  Take a few deep breathes and ask that all cellular memory from all lives, past, present and future be removed.  Take a few more deep breaths and you can imagine butterflies, flowers, or even smoke leaving your body.  Stay here till they are all gone.  You will not see them fly out of you physically and some may even have trouble seeing it in their head.  Just imagine it, it is ok.  Take a few deep breaths of white light.  See yourself breathing in and OUT this white light from your source and smile!  Please feel free to contact us if you need more support.

Manifestation Issues: “I asked for it and it never worked”

If you are not taught the truth behind desire, you will only create a mask and draw doubt and fear to you.  For some they want to manifest money because it makes them feel safe.  They make a vision board or light candles and recite affirmations yet nothing comes.  What the problem is that they asked to feel safe.  We know that not all people with money are safe and happy.  It is an illusion you are asking to create, so you are indeed creating an illusion.  You are taught bits and pieces.  You are shown a piece of the puzzle and expected to design the Mona Lisa out of scrap. 

It is my humble opinion that anything you want to manifest comes down to six basic human needs that are never met by materialistic things.  Each thing that is in the material world comes down to these basic human needs:

• Growth
• Significance
• Variety
• Connection
• Contribution
• Certainty

Many times you will find you have them and you have been ungrateful for them.  When you are manifesting from a place of ungratefulness we are creating more things to be ungrateful for.  You will find you have always been provided the opportunity to have these things in your life but at times have chosen to say no to them.  For instance, if you feel insecure because your partner left you; you could choose to see it as a new start or dead in the water.  The choice is yours what you create and focus on!  Manifesting a strong sense of self instead of another partner to replace the void you feel is not for your highest spiritual growth.  Are you focusing on lack while you manifest and then create lack?  Congratulations you are a great manifestor!

Stay tuned, as I will continue this blog another day.  If you have some questions or comments you would like me to include in the next one, please feel free to contact me at info@thehomeofom.ca, Attention: Angel Rogers

Namaste,

Are You Crushing Spirit Guide Messages With Doubt?

I help people connect to their Spirit Guides all the time.  Clients are always surprised how easy it is with me and how it affects them.  Some get goose bumps, some cry, some just have a satisfied sense of knowledge and others look around not sure why they suddenly knew all the answers.  They asked to know something, were given the answers, and then doubt the validity of it because it was not shrouded in secret or shame.

Do not throw away what you have been seeking because you did not have to work hard for it or ask ten different people for the answer.  It is as silly as holding your breath because breathing in and out is unassisted and natural to you. 

Who are your Spirit Guides?  They are spirits that have crossed over that you have invited to walk with you on this plane.  What we need to remember is that every soul born here has one.  You do not need to worry about somebody being lost or “asleep” because their guides are with them as well.  They are on their path and their path is not your path.  Do not judge another’s journey.  We have free will.  Your guides cannot go against your free will, even if your free will is to dismiss their presence.

Lets do a quick exercise.  It is important that you answer the question before you continue reading.  Simply ask your guide to communicate with you.  There is no need for special crystals, meditation or prayer, although they all can help, they are not the driving force.   Simply pick 1, 2 or 3.  Ask your guide to help you.  It is all right if you do not know them, they know you.   Pick the first number that pops into your head even if you are unsure.

If you picked one, your guide is a friend from another life.

If you picked two, your guide is a family member from a past life

If you picked three, your guide is a mentor here to teach you that you have invited in that you may have known before or is new to you.

How many guides do you have?  This is personal and different for us all depending on our journey.  Your guides can change as you grow and learn.  Think back in school, you had different teachers along the way.  When you passed and went to another grade the old teacher was not bad or disappeared, they were busy teaching others that needed to know what they had to teach.  You got a new teacher.  If you ever had a question the previous teacher was still there to answer questions for you and be your friend.  You do have a main guide that is yours through your whole life.  I suggest that is the guide you connect to first because you can build up a friendship with them so you can understand how they communicate better and better. 

Some will tell you that you can only have a certain amount of guides, just bless them that somebody limited them.  Go to a library and some say you can only take out 6 books, your library you can take out as many as you need because there is no fear you will lose the book, damage it or not return it!  All knowledge is yours for the asking.  Let’s just say I take out a lot of books.  Have you ever taken out a book or bought a book really excited about reading it, then never really did?  Or did you read a few chapters and life got in the way?  Did you used to love reading but then got too busy and the book was put aside for the reality of your life?  Are you a reader who forgot to make reading important?

The Difference between your own mind and a guide speaking to you.

• Your mind is dismissive, Guides mind is constant
• Your mind tells you different things, Guides mind is consistent
• Your mind tells you that you cant do things, Guides mind tells you that you can
• Your mind tells you how to do things quick, Guides mind tells you how to do it right
• Your mind makes you feel stupid, Guides mind teaches you with love
• Your mind protects yourself, Guides mind reminds us of oneness
• Your mind tells you there is not enough, Guide mind reminds of abundance
• Your mind fills you with doubt, Guides mind fills you with curiosity
• Your mind reacts, Guides mind responds
• Your mind holds you back, Guides mind brings you forward

These are just a few examples of how you can tell the difference.  Basically what it comes down to is your mind fills you with doubt and your guides support you.  It does not mean that they are always rainbows and sunshine.  They still help support you to be a better person but never out of shame or a sense of lack.  It is always by awakening and shining light on the beautiful parts of you your mind said to forget.

How to connect with them.  First you have to invite them in.  Make sure you invite guides of only the highest white light guides.  You can call on guides you don’t know.  If you are learning something new, ask for a guide to help you.  When I was doing math when I was in high school I was asking Einstein to help me.  Darned if the guy did not show up. 

The most important thing is for you to talk to them.  So what if at first you think it is just an imaginary friend you have.  At least this imaginary friend is supportive, linked to love and creation and knows you are worthy of great things.   Your imaginary friend that you call your mind is just mean to you a lot of the times.  If you are going to have an imaginary friend, might as well be a nice one right?  Name them.  Whatever you want to name them, name them.  It is all right.  I remember when I first started and sat in a circle with people that had been doing it for a long time and they said their guide’s names were “ Running White Buffalo”, “Zeron” and “Priestess Albia”.    Imagine my surprise when my guide came through and just said “ Joe”.  Mine was not this mystical “powerful” name, but my Joe.  He was so cute, he even apologized that his name was so ordinary.  “ Just your normal Joe”.  Was their guide better than my guide?  That is not a game they play, we do.  I felt warm and fuzzy and like a friend walked into a room.  Do not judge, observe.   

It is ok if you get it “wrong” at first.  They will help you along the way.  I called one Guide Pierre for 6 months because he said he was from France.  He told me later his name was Jean Claude.  I asked him why he did not correct me before and informed me that the name did not matter and the soul has no name but ONE.  Beautiful.  See, my mind, I got it wrong, his mind, it did not matter.  My imaginary friend of the mind told me I was bad and took confidence from me, his mind gave me acceptance.

Once you start talking to them like they are real, they become real.  You will notice that sometimes when your mind is busy asking a question, there is a sense of knowledge in the back of your head that already answered the question.  You will start to become aware of the split seconds of time difference between you creating an answer and you observing an answer.  This is best to do talking out loud because your brain uses more neurons and goes into a meditative mode when listening. 

Some tools that can help.  It is no secret that I love crystals.  They work with the energy of your body and balance it out with the energy of the crystal.  They work on an electromagnetic field that we all have.  There is no way crystals cannot work and it actually takes more energy for you to believe they don’t work then to allow them to work.  Think how much energy it would take to block a stream than to let it flow.  You can search the Internet and it will tell you others opinions of what works for them.  It is important to know what works for your connection.  To get you started I am going to name a few that work well for my students and clients.

Ametrine-  I love this crystal because it is a combination of amethyst and citrine.  It will allow your crown chakra to open up with purpose and clarity but also let your self worth and self-esteem be positive about believing it.  Citrine is also a cleansing stone so will make sure that your affirmation of light is always in your mind.

Clear Quartz-  This is the closest crystal frequency to the human frequency and the most abundant on the planet.  Coincidence?  I also like this crystal because it cleanses out all chakras and allows you to start fresh with your connection.  Most people already have a piece and if they do not it is a very inexpensive crystal to get started with.

Rose Quartz-  Is a stone of universal love.  It is a stone that also balances out all chakras and helps you believe you are one with this love of the universe and your creator.  Again it is available everywhere and is an inexpensive crystal.  Things do not have to be expensive or large to work.  Do not get caught up in it.  Buy what you can afford and know Spirit does not care about money, but of intent. 

There are stones that are of higher and more intense vibration for those that are more experienced like:

• Moldavite- connection to universal energy.  Great for cosmic guides.  INTENSE.
• Apotholite and Celestite to connect to the Angelic realm
• Pink Kunzite -is a new favourite as it releases the wall around your heart and stimulates healing connection between your mind and your heart with your guide.
• Amethyst – opens the crown chakra to higher knowledge and energies.

Your connection to your guide is a gift.  Somebody trying to give you it is like somebody stealing your watch from you then giving it to you as a gift.  We can remind you that you are wearing a watch, help you find it, but never give you what is already yours.  You are not alone.  You never were.  Nobody is alone.  Talk to them, invite them in and start a friendship that will change how you see your reality.

Namaste,