The Adult Indigo Trait Most Don't Want To Talk About

INDIGO ADULTS:  WHAT HAPPENS WHEN THE FIRST WAVE OF INDIGO CHILDREN GROW UP TO BE INDIGO ADULTS?  

iIt happens to all of us.  We all grow up.

What about Indigo children.  How do they grow up?

 Do they?

That is a bit of the irony here.  Of coarse they do.  Everybody grows up.  But how do they grow up differently?  The key to remember is that they felt grown up when they were still children.  Most people will say that their Indigo child was very "mature" for their age.  That is it.  They did not feel like they had an age.  They came into this world feeling like a conscious adult that had work to do.  Yes they can still play and act silly, but you will notice a sense of seriousness about them as well.  Many parents say, "It's like he/she is 9 going on 30"

What happens when they really are an adult?  Something many people don't like to talk about is the pain that many Indigo Adults go through.  The feeling of inauthenticity,  depression and failure.    The feeling like they just do not want to be here anymore.  The feeling like they do not belong and in some way are homesick.  Did they make a mistake coming here they ask?

Why does this happen?  You see one of the most beautiful traits is that Indigos are honest.  They vibrate to a frequency of truth and equality and being around the vibration of dishonesty and separation feels detrimental to them.  It can cause them to get either angry or sad.

When this happens, it can feel to them like "what is the point"?  They begin to not care about what happens to them or around them because they cannot change it so why bother caring?  It hurts to care and see the misbalance so they have to survive by not caring.  This can creep into their own lives as well.  They can begin to not care about their own lives.  

Indigos often feel alone and misunderstood

You will often find Indigo Children in their teens using any tool they can to do so.  Some may turn to marijuana to feel better and to help them stop thinking so they can sleep.  Indigos are very hard on themselves so think of their mistakes over and over again.  They start to feel like failures and can get caught in this habit.  I am not here to judge the use of it, but do be aware that there are better ways.  Music is an amazing way to calm the Spirit.  Be aware though that what is calming to us, may be too boring for them.  Many Indigo teens love deep beats and loud music because it actually calms them.  The fast pace and deep tracks match their frequency better so it balances them.  Remember they are different than you, so do not expect them to like what they like.  Ask them instead why they like it.  You will often get " I don't know, I just do".  Indigo Teens do not feel the need to explain themselves not because they are rude or disrespectful; but more they are used to telepathy and have not really mastered how to get their thoughts out of their head and into yours.  Be patient.  They are trying.

You will often find Indigo Adults in their 20's having a hard time deciding what to go to school for or holding a job.  They get bored and see that this is not going to help them expand their consciousness and they do not see the point to that.  They leave.  They want to be challenged and grow but in a loving and meaningful way that they feel will not make a difference to just them, but to EVERYTHING.  

If they have not figured out how to do this,  they can feel inadequate or the opposite, to think they are better than others and just fade off into their own world because others don't get them.

If they are sad too long, the anger will appear.  They will often think other people are STUPID for acting the way they do.  It is not that they really do think they are better than others, they cannot understand how others can be so disconnected.  They do not understand how others do not see that hurting another is actually hurting yourself.  This is illogical which seems stupid.  They would rather be mad than sad.  

But Now What?

Often the head and the heart argue to be the BOSS

Nobody wants to walk around mad or sad do they?  They feel like they are doing a ton of work yet have nothing to show for it.  How can they get over this hump?  They start by realizing they cannot control the world, just the choices they make in theirs.  There are alternatives to just sad or angry.  Let's look at a few.  TRILOTHERAPY was created by a Zen Master after decades of studying Ancient Buddhist Philosophies and Eastern Psychology.  Tri,  means three.  Lo means knowledge, and Therapy means to help.   The Heart is one, the Head is 2, but what is 3?  You!

You forgot about you.  Often the head says one thing but the heart says another.  You are torn between the two.  Which one is right and which one is wrong.  There is always a winner and a loser and Indigo's HATE to be wrong.  If they learn to make choices from a centre of awakening of themselves, not the head nor the heart, they will end their suffering.  

Let's see how this could work.

   Head Says                          Heart Says                   You Say

He's stupid                Give him another chance       I will be patient and explain 

I hate my job             Let's have fun instead          Do something fun after work

I can't be around idiots      Don't be so mean       Love them for what they are                                                                                                                         

I need to get out of here     I need to love more     I need to get more in touch                                                                                with myself and meditate

The beliefs of Trilotherapy we suggest you meditate to are:

Life is Beautiful

It is okay to enjoy things

And Everything Is all Right

For more information on Trilotherapy, Visit: http://www.thehomeofom.ca/#!trilotherapy/csqb 

Check back when we discuss some of the minerals and vitamins that can really help an Indigo feel much better while they are on their journey here.

If you are an Indigo Child, make sure to check out our Store.  We have a class that would be just perfect for you.  The first part is for parents learning how to deal with a child in a loving way, but with the boundaries they need.  The second part explains to the children what crystals are, which ones work for them and how they can use them to help feel better.  

Indigo Adults, keep an eye out for our in class workshops at The Home of OM on how to balance your life and find the joy you deserve and need.

Full Of Self Doubt When It Comes To Your Psychic Gifts? Good!

 Yes.  I said "Good".  Why?  Because it means you are doing something right.  How can that be?  I have taught thousands of people how to start trusting their psychic gifts for many years now.  What I tell them is that I do not teach them how to be psychic, but I give them a chance to experience that they already are.  What's the difference?   Let's look at it another way.

Would you like me to teach you to make a million dollars or would you like me to remind you that you already have a million dollars and just show you where you put it?  I don't have to teach you to be something you already are, I just have to witness it for you and point it out.  Sometimes it is so easy for us, we forget how psychically rich we already are.

Let's start by showing you why your doubt is important.  First when you are "doubting" something, what does that really mean?  According to freedictionary.com

doubt

v. doubt·ed, doubt·ing, doubts

v.tr.

1. To be undecided or skeptical about: began to doubt some accepted doctrines.

2. To tend to disbelieve; distrust: doubts politicians when they make sweeping statements.

3. To regard as unlikely: I doubt that we'll arrive on time.

4. Archaic To suspect; fear.

v.intr.

To be undecided or skeptical.

What are you skeptical about?  What are you distrusting?  What do you think is unlikely?  What are you undecided about when it comes to your psychic gifts?

Skeptical that the information is right

Distrusting the origin of the information

Unlikely that you are psychic

Undecided if you even want to be

Do you know why you are skeptical if the information is right?  Because you don't know.  Simple.  You have to take a risk here.  How do you find out?  You ask the person you are trying to practice with by simply telling them the information you got.  I call this  "catch and release".    You will never know if it is right because the information is a new thought and not for you.  If you are trying to meditate and getting answers for yourself, still scepticism is all right.  It means it is something you are not sure of.   This means it is a new idea.  Wait, is that not what you sat down and tried to get?  So you got what you asked for and you are still not content?  Hmmmmm

Distrust.  It is understandable if you do not trust yourself all the time.  It can also mean you are humble and know that you have much to learn.  This is beautiful.  It means you are flexible and not rigid.  We are human.  We make mistakes.  You do not want to make mistakes.  Accept you will be wrong now and then and that is all right.  You can always get more information and continue your quest.  Trust Spirit and the Universe or God instead.  The more you sit in meditation and feel at peace, the more you will learn to trust that you are part of something bigger that can never fail you.  Only when you distrust that you are alone do you fail.  Meditate.  Connect.  I dare you to listen to this 3 minute track and NOT feel connected to something bigger.  Sit back and listen.  Love to hear your comments on how you felt after listening to this.

If you felt at peace after hearing this, you have proven you are born psychic.  You allowed yourself to experience a connection to something greater.  In just 3 minutes you slowed down enough to feel connected to yourself and when you did this you felt at peace.  You connected through another.  You connected to another from your own self.  This is psychic.  This is who you are.  You are one.  Slow down.  Meditate.  Do not try to speed up and go faster and faster.   Do you know there are some things that science cannot explain how our bodies work?  We are just beginning to understand the power of the human mind.  If you are ever in doubt that we are born this way, talk to an Indigo Child or Adult.  These are souls that are born not forgetting that they are one.  They know when others are lying and hate the fact they are not seen as equals even at the age of 3.  They want the same rights you do as the adult.  Why?  Because they feel the same.  Is that really so bad?  They are born with a sense of equality and we destroy it by our ego.  You are no different than them.  You just forgot.  It is unlikely that we are not connected to a greater source.    Want proof?  Take a look at the picture below.  Did you grimace?  Did you connect to the emotion?  Did you "imagine" what it would feel like?  Congrats, you were just "psychic".

Still undecided?  You don't have to become a a weirdo or take it to the extreme others do.  Being psychic just means that you trust the signals your body and mind are telling you.  It means instead of ignoring it, you ask more questions and investigate it.  It is your warning mechanism to live a life of joy and peace.  Why would you not want that?  Exploring your psychic side will not turn you into this....

Unless you want to.  Then more power to you.  It is just not the "look" I am going for.

One last thing.  At about 18 months you become self aware.  This means that you know who you are.  You can look in the mirror and know that that is you or not.  What would it look like if you were not self aware?  Let's take a peek at these animals who have not figured it out yet.

Your brain knows your thoughts and your words.  It knows you.  When a thought from your Higher Self or your Guides pops into your brain, the fact that you are  DOUBTFUL is proof that it is not your own thoughts.  If it was you, you would not have asked....."Is that me?"  

Simple.  Fact.  Use it.

Use your doubt as proof that you are psychic.  Do not get rid of it.  Keep it.  It means you are not crazy after all.

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If you are interested in finding out more about your abilities, I do private sessions on Skype, phone and in person at my office in Calgary Alberta.  info@thehomeofom.ca

Stop Picking Up Other's Emotions

Emotions.  They are what makes life worth living.  They can be a double edged sword can't they?  In loving, you risk pain.  In living in joy, you also risk living in sadness.   Emotions means you are alive.  They are always moving and always flowing.  Without movement, there is stagnation and death.  You move.  Your body moves, it flows, it changes.  Your moods will too.  As human beings, we are dramatically affected by our environment.  Our environment can send signals to our brain on what type of hormone to trigger and thus setting our over all feeling of well being.

We don't mind this when we are in a great environment.  Who does not love to laugh, share ideas and feel like part of a community?  But we know life is not always like that.  Sometimes we find ourselves in a not so pleasant environment.  It can be at work, at school, even at home sometimes.

Do you let other people choose your emotions for you?  If you are happy and somebody else is angry, do you let go of your happiness and become angry too?  Don't think so?  Tell me if this situation sounds familiar.  You are having a good day, and somebody comes in grumpy and perhaps snaps at you.  Do you stop being happy and then wonder what is wrong with them?  Do you then defend yourself or justify yourself?  Do you pick up their mood?  Did your good day just go out the window?

Let's look at some ways to stop this from happening.  Most of us know we do that but are not exactly sure how to stop doing it.  We know HOW TO but  not how to STOP.  Let me take you through some step by step methods that have worked for me.  I have learned to change them instead of them changing me.  At the very least, I have learned to maintain my peace.  It is your the most valuable thing you own, do not give it away so freely then accuse them of stealing it.

Step One:
Make a list of what is important to you and what is not.  If somebody slams something down as a way to release frustration, does it really matter?  Not really, unless they slam you.  Perhaps slamming something is ok, but slamming you is not.  Letting go of frustration in a physical form is actually good as long as it does not hurt anybody or damage property.    Is raising their voice all right, but swearing is not?  Is your need for absolute peace going to stop others from feeling safe to express themselves too?   Make a list of  "this is ok, BUT this is not".  Give yourself some wiggle room.  It really is ok if for a moment or two you think somebody is angry at you.  Does not mean you have to get angry at yourself too or start justifying yourself to them.  A great quote is " it is none of your business what other people think of you".  Not an easy quote to follow, but a fair one all the same.

Step Two:  See their emotions instead of feeling them.  I "see" she is angry instead of I "feel" she is angry.  By the way, you could be wrong.  You could think she is angry when she is really just tired because a sick child kept her up last night.  Never assume you know other's feelings.  If you see and you want to know, ask them.  When somebody is upset it is usually because they think nobody cared that they got hurt.  When you ask them, they feel recognized and that they matter.    Try this exercise.  Look at the picture below.  First tell yourself  " I see you are sad".  Then try,  "I feel you are sad".  The goal is to not associate their feelings with yours.  See, not feel.  Go back over and over to this exercise till you can see it without feeling it.  Get the energy out of your heart chakra, and bring it into your third eye chakra, in between your eye brows.

Now try it with this little boy.  Do you notice the difference between the woman and the little boy feeling?  With the little boy you were probably sad then moved towards extending compassion.  You wanted to help, not just absorb their pain.  Follow through with the woman picture.  Send her strength from the Universe, not yours.  If you are sad for her, you are sending her pity,  and nobody wants that.  Send her strength from the Universe knowing she will be all right and this too shall pass with grace.  

Step Three:
Express what you need to people around you.   If yelling scares you, let your partner or people around you know.  You can tell them why, or not.  Some people are raised in houses where yelling is a form of communication and it does not bother them.  Others are not and it means something serious is about to happen or is happening.   Let them know that you go into panic mode when yelling occurs and you go straight to defence mode.  Go scream into a pillow first you can suggest to them to get that frustration out.  Does talking after a 5 minute cool down work better for you?    Sometimes explaining prior to incidents what your motivations are, helps them to understand your needs and theirs better.  If you order a salad at a restaurant you are not surprised when you get one right?  Let people know what you want so they can deliver it.  

Step Four:
Have a way out.  Give yourself a time limit to being in these situations.  You can simply say to somebody that is complaining again that you know they are resourceful and creative and that you know they will figure it out.  Wish them luck on it, sincerely mind you, and move away from that topic.  If somebody is saying the same story over and over again,  you can mention that you remember them telling you about that situation before and recount how it ended.  Get to the end before them.  That way they don't have to.  You can also play it simply by reminding them to stay positive.  If you cannot get out of the situation,  go to a happy picture in your head that brings you peace.  Hum your favourite song to get happy vibes in your head instead of theirs.  A Gandhi quote for this is wonderful,  “I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.”

Remember that it is up to you to maintain your peace, not anybody else.  Learn to meditate, take deep breaths and stay present.  Do not take things personally.   Witness, do not become.   Be compassionate not empathetic.   Is it funny that the root word of empathetic is pathetic and the root word of compassionate is passionate?   Just a thought.  If you would like more information about being empathic,  ask us about our online class about the top 30 mistakes most Empaths make.  It can be delivered right to your inbox!   Namaste

3 Signs You're Raising An Indigo

The world is changing.  Some want this change, and some are fighting it every step of the way.  Those that do not want the world to change will become dinosaurs.  They will fade off and die. The world will be left with us, and our children.  We are the change we want to see in the world.  This means our children are changing too.  Our children are being born more "awake" then we ever were.  "Awake" meaning that they have not forgotten where they are from.  They are born knowing we are all one and almost demand to be treated as such.  It may seem very weird to some of you to think that your 3 year old thinks that they deserve just as much respect as you do.  It is really weird? Do you meditate that we are all one, and ask for world healing, yet when you have an opportunity to show the youngest of our planet this grace, you protest and call them "undisciplined"?  They are saying that they are your equal, and you do not like it.  Let's look at three sure signs you are raising an Indigo that you might have missed as discipline problems.

Hate Being Told What To Do
They believe in freedom for everybody.  They do not like being told what to do because you have taken away their freedom.  They can get very temperamental and even throw things when forced to do something they did not want to.  This can be bedtime in younger children to curfew with older teenagers.    They seem to have a switch that just turns ON and there they go.  How can you avoid this?  Give them options.  Ask your child why they think its a good time for them to have the same bedtime each night.  They will tell you.  If they do not, prompt them, not tell them.  Suggestions for this are  "Are you usually happy or grumpy when you do not get enough sleep?"  This reminds them of the cause and effect.  They are very logical.  Work with that.  "Dont you want to have lots of energy to have fun at school tomorrow or with your friends?"  Let them answer.  For older children, ask for their input so that they are not feeling like a prisoner.  Ask them what they think is a reasonable curfew for instance and pre negotiate what the consequences are if that is broken.  Do this when they are not angry.  Do this when everything is calm.  If they agree to it,  you can let them know that you trust them to follow through with their agreement because you trust their word.

Knows When Anybody Is Lying
Really this is not such a bad thing, it is a great thing you think.... until they know when YOU are lying to them.  They are born in a vibration of truth and most are highly intuitive.  They know the vibration of truth and are just "off" when a lie is told.  They do not trust the person and can call you on it.  They can get so upset that you dared lied to them that they get angry and call you  "A LIAR".  Solution....don't lie.  Be honest, open and explain.   They will respect it.  Even if you said you were going to stop at a store and look for their favourite toy car and you told them they did not have any left.... they will know and call you a liar telling you that you did not even stop.  You are shocked, how could they know.  The better solution is to just tell them that you were tired and that you thought maybe they would like to go with you tomorrow to pick out the perfect one.  He may still be upset, but at least he trusts you.  Losing the trust of your Indigo is detrimental to how they see the world.  For older children,  you have to follow the golden rule.  Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  Again, not such a bad thing.  They hate  one rule for them and one rule for you.    They need solid role models.  Do you tell your teenager how bad smoking is and then ground them but then they see you smoke yourself?  Do you tell them they have to answer your texts but do not get back to theirs in a timely matter?  You yell at them but how dare they yell at you?  Be fair.  Be patient and be the parent you know you can be.  Do not make it, what my father would call.... " A PISSING MATCH".    You will win the fight, but lose the battle every single time.

Has A Hard Time Sleeping
Their mind is hard to stop thinking and dreaming and creating.  They are high energy and you literally have to teach them how to fall asleep.  I have found that a lot of Indigo children and teenagers do better with just their mattress on the ground.  They tell me they feel safer that way.  Try it.   They are thinking of their mistakes they made that day and the mistakes others made.  They tend to be perfectionists and this can cause them to stop trying new things because they are not used to failing.  They feel rejected and take it very hard.  Their mind thinks of ways to improve things in and out of their life and their ON switch is hard to turn OFF.  Young children will love the routine of back rubs and soft music.  Teach them how to fall asleep.  No tv or screen time 45 minutes before bed.  Your brain needs 45 minutes to produce melatonin and if their is light shining in their eye, it signals the brain not to produce this hormone needed to sleep because they eye is screaming "Wait we are still working here!!!" Try buying some lavender oil and put it in a spray bottle with some sparkles and their favourite crystal.  Label it "sleep spray" and spray it before bed on their clothes and pillows.  Their mind will associate that smell with rest and relaxation.  It becomes a good habit.  Now older kids are a bit different.  You may need absolute quiet to sleep but they are the opposite.  They actually sleep better listening to music or with the tv on.  It is background or white noise to them.  It allows them to slowly switch off their mind.  They move from concentrating on the noise instead of thinking to getting tired.  This is not a solution but it helps.  Try asking them to listen to guided meditations at night or hypnotherapy sessions on youtube you  both approve of to help train them.  Trust me, nobody likes not being able to fall asleep.  They can get anxious about sleeping because it is so hard for them.  These kids need to be tired to sleep.  Exercise is important for their sleep, mood and growth.  Lavender oil mixed with some cream, rubbed on their feet helps.  Teach them some breath exercises such as the 4*7*8 to help cut the anxiety and train their brain.  These kids LOVE feeling in control of their choices, so tell them that you are teaching them to control their choice of sleep. 

 Click here to read more about the benefits of 4*7*8 breathing and how to do it

Having an Indigo Child gives you the ability to step up to the plate and be a better person under the microscope of their little hearts.  Rise to it.  They need you.  You need you.  We Need You!

If you need more help with your Indigo child, feel free to contact Angel Rogers who has been trained to deal with Indigos and raised three herself.  Her strategy is to train the parent, not the child, so you are always their hero.  You can book at thehomeofom.ca

What Is The Biggest Mistake Empaths Make?

Empaths.  What are they?  They are people that are more in tuned to others emotions.  They can tell what other people are feeling, by feeling their emotions.  Problem is that Empaths let other people change their feelings.  If you as an Empath are happy, if somebody comes in that is not happy, but angry instead, you let go of your happiness and become angry too.  If somebody is sad, you let go of your joy for their sadness.  Empaths think this makes them a "nicer" and more compassionate person.  Does it really though?    When does trading in joy for anger ever make anybody a better person?

What then happens is Empaths feel too much.  They feel everybody's feelings mixed in with their own.  They begin to lose the ability to tell if an emotion is their own or did they pick up another persons, animals or even an environments energy.  They get overwhelmed.  They feel tired, anxious and sad.  How can you fix what you do not know is broken?  How can you heal what is not sick?  This is the rutt Empaths get into.  They are not feeling well, they try to figure out why, but because it is not their energy, they cannot fix it.  If they cannot fix it, they continue to feel bad.  Then they isolate themselves or withdraw because they just cannot take anymore.  They need their rest.  They need to recover from wounds that are not even theirs.  Most well meaning people will recommend that Empaths "shield" themselves.  This means to protect yourself from other people's emotions by putting a shield around yourself.  The theory is that if you isolate yourself from others so you do not pick up their feelings.

Problem;  How do you feel feelings if you are afraid of them?  How do you protect yourself by putting yourself in a state of fear and low vibration?  How do you celebrate life if you are afraid of it?  By "shielding" yourself you are telling the Universe that you want to experience something to be afraid of.  How can you experience the choice you make to shield yourself without anything to be afraid of?  The universe listens to your decisions without judgement. You are asking them to send you something to protect yourself from. So you get it. You are creating the fear by fearing it.  Thus you are creating your own worse nightmare.  You  are walking around in fear, but then creating it.

You start to try to stop feeling feelings.  The only way to stop feeling pain is to stop feeling all together.  What is a better idea?  Realize that pain can be part of your joy.  Realize that recognizing pain at the first sign of it, you can deal with small issues and not let them turn to big ones you need to protect yourself from.  When you recognize your pain instead of ignoring it, you are more likely to make changes that move you towards joy. See, pain can lead to joy.   Most Empaths do not like confrontation so they let things pile up.  No more.  You are not doing any one a favour by not letting them know they hurt your feelings.  You are not helping them or yourself.  It breeds contempt and resentment.  How do they know they hurt your feelings if you do not tell them?  They are not Empaths.  They do not feel how you do.  Help them out.  Let them know.

Most Empaths feel unappreciated and overworked.  That is because they do so much for others, and do not feel the return.  This is generally because they do not know how to ask for what they want, so never get it.  They wait, and wait and wait.  But if you tell people you are fine, they believe you.  Take responsibility to teach people how to treat you.  You, like all others, have the right to joy.  Your job as an Empath is not to be an emotional toilet bowl for others.

Try this instead.  Instead of closing yourself in out of fear, expand your love instead.  Do not breath in their second hand emotions, but breath out love.  Observe them, do not become them.  If you start "feeling" a feeling that is not yours,  or are not sure if it is, ask.  Ask if it belongs to you or another.  If you had a fight with your sister, it is normal to feel upset.  If everything is fine, but you still feel upset, return the energy to the universe with Love.  Don't  analyze it or try to fix it.. just let the universe do it for you.  Expand yourself, do not try to make yourself disappear.  Grow.  Shine. Breath.  Live .  Do not feel the feeling, ask your intuitive self to hear or know what the other person is feeling instead of feeling it too.  If your friend looks sad, you are not going to help them by being sad too.  Ask your higher self what is going on, or better yet, ask your friend.  Maybe they are not sad at all but just tired.

Empaths are the next generation of the human race.  They are compassionate and strong and care about each other.  Peace, joy and justice is their religion. Everybody has a just right to be at peace, including them.  

Rethink your shield.  Do you want to run and hide, or shine and grow?  Don't just make something a block to your growth, make it a building block.  Climb over and enjoy life again.

Namaste,

Clearing Exercise For Empaths

When we rub a balloon on our head and our hair stands up and sticks to the balloon, we see electricity and atoms in motion.  It is pretty neat how rubbing an object against something else can cause such drastic changes. 

Did you ever think that if your hair can be affected so much, that other parts of you could be as well?  Your hair in just a few seconds can be changed.  Imagine your heart. 

Your heart has the largest magnetic field of any place of your body and is more sensitive than your hair. Are you walking around "rubbing" against people and your heart stands on end but because it is internal you cannot see the dramatic results? What if you could? Would you continue to allow this to happen? Would you go to work with your hair sticking up like that, totally out of your control? Probably not. Let's take a look at a simple, fast, yet effective exercise we suggest you do to help clear your heart energy.

For this exercise you will need a crystal.  Most empaths hold onto other's energies because they do not want to give off negativity to other people, places or even things. They feel it is their job to be a conduit of pain, to take others pain and be the keeper of it till they can absorb it and take it away at any cost to their own joy.  Let me assure you that this is not the case.  Your job is not to take pain, but to evolve into joy.   To be an example of joy and love.  The crystal will help relieve any anxiety of who gets the energy you no longer need.  We will give it back to Mother Earth who will transmute it into peace.  I dont mean to be graphic here, but think of a bathroom.  When you go to the bathroom you flush the toilet right?  You get rid of what your body no longer needs by putting it into a vessel and clearing it.  You are not the world's emotional toilet.  You are a vessel of peace.  Treat and honour yourself, as such and your world will change.

Pick a crystal that you are drawn to for this exercise.  Do not analyze it, just pick it up because your body and your Spirit said you needed that one.  Then find out what that crystal means.  This is where being a beginner is so wonderful because you are totally unbiased and pure in your choice because you do not know what all the crystals mean just yet.   You can look on the internet for amazing sites that explain crystal properties for free.  

Take the crystal and put it in both hands and hold your hands to your heart.  Ask that Spirit, The Universe, God or the Angels, whatever your affiliation may be, to walk with you and help renew you to your original state of peace.  Start with taking 3 deep breaths to calm you.  You do not want to do this with anxiety or stress because then it is released with tension and judgment instead of peace and unity.

This is where you let the crystal and your Higher Self do the work.  You may be holding onto things without realizing it and if you get too specific here and ask for 

"Any terrible energy for Trevor that broke my heart, get out of my heart now!", you are stopping Spirit from clearing out perhaps anxiety that you have carried with you for so many years because your father left you at a young age.  The universe cannot go against your free will so they can only do what you ask and leave the rest.

A better statement is " I ask with much love and gratitude that all things that are not of my doing and being, that is no longer serving me, be released into this crystal as a conduit of peace and compassion.  I give it back to Mother Earth and the Divineness that lives in me,  honours the ability to transmute this energy back into peace"

Imagine little pieces of energy in whatever colour the crystal is, in your body.  See the crystal as a magnet and it is calling all pieces, wherever they may lay in your body, back to it.  Think of it as an emotional vacuume. You know you are done when there are no more flickers of energy of that crystal colour in your body that you can see.  Take the crystal from your heart and run it under cold water for a few minutes and see the energy running back to Mother Earth.   If your crystal is compatible with sunlight, place it in the sun for the day to charge it.  If it is not, use moonlight instead.  Either or, is all right.  

That's it.  Simple, effective yet powerful.  You can do this.  If you are extremely anxious and overwhelmed you may feel the need to do this twice a day.  After that you can do it only when you need to.  

We hope this helped you understand that you are not an emotional dumping zone and to respect your place in the world, even if others do not yet.  

Namaste,