Empaths. What are they? They are people that are more in tuned to others emotions. They can tell what other people are feeling, by feeling their emotions. Problem is that Empaths let other people change their feelings. If you as an Empath are happy, if somebody comes in that is not happy, but angry instead, you let go of your happiness and become angry too. If somebody is sad, you let go of your joy for their sadness. Empaths think this makes them a "nicer" and more compassionate person. Does it really though? When does trading in joy for anger ever make anybody a better person?
What then happens is Empaths feel too much. They feel everybody's feelings mixed in with their own. They begin to lose the ability to tell if an emotion is their own or did they pick up another persons, animals or even an environments energy. They get overwhelmed. They feel tired, anxious and sad. How can you fix what you do not know is broken? How can you heal what is not sick? This is the rutt Empaths get into. They are not feeling well, they try to figure out why, but because it is not their energy, they cannot fix it. If they cannot fix it, they continue to feel bad. Then they isolate themselves or withdraw because they just cannot take anymore. They need their rest. They need to recover from wounds that are not even theirs. Most well meaning people will recommend that Empaths "shield" themselves. This means to protect yourself from other people's emotions by putting a shield around yourself. The theory is that if you isolate yourself from others so you do not pick up their feelings.
Problem; How do you feel feelings if you are afraid of them? How do you protect yourself by putting yourself in a state of fear and low vibration? How do you celebrate life if you are afraid of it? By "shielding" yourself you are telling the Universe that you want to experience something to be afraid of. How can you experience the choice you make to shield yourself without anything to be afraid of? The universe listens to your decisions without judgement. You are asking them to send you something to protect yourself from. So you get it. You are creating the fear by fearing it. Thus you are creating your own worse nightmare. You are walking around in fear, but then creating it.
You start to try to stop feeling feelings. The only way to stop feeling pain is to stop feeling all together. What is a better idea? Realize that pain can be part of your joy. Realize that recognizing pain at the first sign of it, you can deal with small issues and not let them turn to big ones you need to protect yourself from. When you recognize your pain instead of ignoring it, you are more likely to make changes that move you towards joy. See, pain can lead to joy. Most Empaths do not like confrontation so they let things pile up. No more. You are not doing any one a favour by not letting them know they hurt your feelings. You are not helping them or yourself. It breeds contempt and resentment. How do they know they hurt your feelings if you do not tell them? They are not Empaths. They do not feel how you do. Help them out. Let them know.
Most Empaths feel unappreciated and overworked. That is because they do so much for others, and do not feel the return. This is generally because they do not know how to ask for what they want, so never get it. They wait, and wait and wait. But if you tell people you are fine, they believe you. Take responsibility to teach people how to treat you. You, like all others, have the right to joy. Your job as an Empath is not to be an emotional toilet bowl for others.
Try this instead. Instead of closing yourself in out of fear, expand your love instead. Do not breath in their second hand emotions, but breath out love. Observe them, do not become them. If you start "feeling" a feeling that is not yours, or are not sure if it is, ask. Ask if it belongs to you or another. If you had a fight with your sister, it is normal to feel upset. If everything is fine, but you still feel upset, return the energy to the universe with Love. Don't analyze it or try to fix it.. just let the universe do it for you. Expand yourself, do not try to make yourself disappear. Grow. Shine. Breath. Live . Do not feel the feeling, ask your intuitive self to hear or know what the other person is feeling instead of feeling it too. If your friend looks sad, you are not going to help them by being sad too. Ask your higher self what is going on, or better yet, ask your friend. Maybe they are not sad at all but just tired.
Empaths are the next generation of the human race. They are compassionate and strong and care about each other. Peace, joy and justice is their religion. Everybody has a just right to be at peace, including them.
Rethink your shield. Do you want to run and hide, or shine and grow? Don't just make something a block to your growth, make it a building block. Climb over and enjoy life again.
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