Are you caught in the “Healers Trap” and don’t even know it?

What exactly is “the healers trap”?  It is a phrase I coined after years of working as a “healer” and working with hundreds of other “healers” at the school.  If we have the answers and can heal others, why do we still feel we need healing?  The trap is that once you start, you do not stop.  You constantly feel the need to learn more, do more, give more and be more.  There is no stillness.  There is a compulsion for movement and growth.   Here lies the problem.  Without firm and solid roots, you cannot grow strong and stable.

You are blades of grass in a field instead of the strong tree.  Grass is beautiful and very important.  What happens to it though?  It is small compared to the tree.  It gets cut down when somebody thinks it is grown too high.  Most do not cut down a big strong tree; instead they find shade, beauty and comfort in it.  One blade of grass in the field looks lonely and like it is going to die.  A tree in a field looks like a survivor and a place for others to rest.  One blade of grass in a field of grass gets lost and although feels like it is one with the field, we all strive for acceptance of our individuality.  Tree or grass?  Do you want to be a tree but are planting grass seeds instead? 

How can you tell if you are in a Healers Trap?

Do you sometimes get tired after a healing?  Giving away your energy.

Has anybody ever cancelled a meeting and you are a bit relieved? Should have said no to the session to begin with and needed rest.

Do you ask the person how it was?  Poor confidence and self-doubt.

Do you suffer from poor self-esteem? If you think you are not meeting expectations all the time, poor self esteem is natural.

Are you shy? Insecurities

Have you been ridiculed by others for your healing beliefs? Cuts you down.

Have you felt so hurt by some and their reaction to your healing beliefs that you have started to avoid them or consider them energy drainers?  You are giving your energy away.  They cannot take what you do not give.

Do you have more than one healing modality training?  There has not been one that seems to work for everybody all the time.  Including you!

Are you longing for more?  You are not full.

Do you know you are connected to the Oneness of the universe,  all but still at times feel alone? There is still a feeling of separation, but not sure from what.

Suffer from anxiety?  We all feel anxious when we feel alone and unwanted.

Suffer from depression?  Who would not get depressed feeling this way?

Feel guilty and responsible for others even when you know you are not responsible? Undue pressure on yourself.

Do you think about your mistakes over and over again?  Compulsive negativity towards self.

Do you let other’s words hurt you for hours, days or even years after? Inability to let go.

Are you tired a lot of the time?  Adrenal glands always on.

Do you suffer muscle pain? The heart is being ignored and unheard.

Do you have a hard time falling asleep at night?  Mind controls you and you cannot stop thinking.

Do you crave sugar?  Your body is desperate to feel good so sugar releases chemicals in the brain that make you feel good, and it is worth the crash after you feel.  

Are you surprised you can relate with this list?  The question is now what you do with this knowledge?   How can you heal others when it is breaking you?  You can sit here and read this and feel that you feel these things sometimes but you have been trained and love giving to others.  Of coarse you do not suffer from this, there must be a mistake.  There is.  Just one.

You don’t have to hurt to heal.

Trust me, I understand.  I have been searching for a long time.  I was in this Healers Trap and am so grateful that I have just found my way out of the labyrinth.  Don’t believe me that I suffered from it?  I am going to list my certificates and training.  Angel Medium, Past Life Healer, Quantum Hypnotherapist, Qi Gong Practitioner, Akashic Record Healer, Colour Therapist,  Crystaline Angel Healer, Delegate of the Light, Advanced Angel Practitioner,  Chakra Healer, Trance Healer, Psychic Medium and there are more.  I forget them.  That is sad.  I forget what I thought would be the answer.  How does that happen?  I was left hungry.

I am now full.  I have ended my search after training for three years and will never pick up another training manual or take a class that starves me more.  If you were hungry and somebody offered you a plate of food but said you will be full for 5 minutes but will be hungrier after… would you take out your fork?   I have found peace.   I have found it and so excited about it that I want to share it with you all and have taken amazing steps to do this.  If you find yourself connecting with this blog and want to feel full and complete, stay tuned.  I am going to offer to help.  I am going to share my plate because it is never ending.

What if you could do what you love by helping people and not get tired, hurt, made fun of, have 100% success rate, feel safe and secure, feel happy, get rid of anxiety and depression, sleep well at night, lose weight not gain it, and feel a true place of acceptance and peace?  What if you could give it to yourself? 

Stay tuned.  More details to come. 

Namaste,

Messages From the other Side Through The Radio?

The world works on frequencies.  Relationships formed from one frequency to another to create something we can observe.  The reaction to these interactions is usually how our mind basis reality on.  What your mind sees and hears can be very different from what another will see and hear because we all have a form of filter around us.  It comes from our own unique life experiences from our joys to our sorrows and fears.  Two people can look at the same picture and see very different things.    Radio waves are electromagnetic and thus can carry information on it.  If you have something that can pick up the signal that they are sending out, i.e. a radio, then you can receive the information and listen to it.  It is always out there if the radio is off or on; it is just a matter of when you  “tune” in.

Today we are going to do a neat experiment that needs you to be a willing and open-minded participant to work.  If you are here reading this blog, we assume you are that already!  When people want to contact the other side to communicate with people they love, they are always looking for a path.  A place to start.  Once you get a place to start, and you have some trust, then the path leads you someplace beautiful.  You get to know you are not alone and that your loved ones are always with you.  People doubt their connection and ability to hear messages from the other side, but it is usually because you are trying to hear with your ears and your head.  Hear with your heart instead.  It is not full of doubt, your head is.  The instant you accept a message from the other side, your heart feels great, but then you bring that feeling up into your head and that nasty ego and fear takes it from you.  Your heart felt good, then you brought it to your head, and then the heart picked up on the fear and ego and threw out the good for the negative.  It sucks.

What we are going to do today is let Spirit interact with you.  We know information is carried on radio waves.  It is easy for Spirit on the other side to work with electricity because of its wavelength and our interaction with it through our own bio magnetic field.  Yes, the human body creates electricity of sort.  Even when you are sleeping you are generating 81 watts and this moves up to 1, 630 watts when you are sprinting according to Center for Space Power and Advanced Electronics.

When we combine your energy with the radio waves, permission from you for Spirit to contact you in this form, an open mind and trust… the messages from Spirit can blow you away.   One day I had turned on my Sirius radio and was scrolling through when the Elvis radio came on.  My dad, who passed away in 2011 loved Elvis.  The title of the song caught my eye because it was about having a good trip and I was going on a trip the next day.  I laughed and asked out loud “ Dad are you talking to me through Elvis radio”?   The next song title that came on was “Your Father Lives Here”!   

I pulled over and took a picture of the screen with my camera and sent it to my sister.  Just so you know, there is no such song as this from Elvis.  Coincidence or communication from my father?  I choose communication with my father and live in a world where magic happens and he is always with me.  I had proof of it.

So now it is your time to communicate with the other side.  Let’s start with your Spirit Guide.  It is ok if you never worked with them before or don’t know who they are, trust me, they know you.   What I would like you to try is to just simply ask for a message from your Spirit Guide through the radio.  Do not tell them what to do or how to do it or make a request.  This is not long distance dedication time.   Let them decided and work their magic.  Asking to hear a certain Led Zeppelin song and then turn the radio on and it not being played right now is kind of limiting no?  Instead simply ask them to give you a message through the radio.  Give it 3 songs. 

Now listen and pay attention.  There may be a certain verse that makes you go THAT’S IT!  Something will hit you and move you.  If you even have to wonder if that was it…THAT WAS IT!  Use your body as a tool.  Did it react?  Some get goose bumps; some just feel lighter while others feel nothing but a sense of knowledge to pay attention.    It may not be as dramatic as mine was that day, but you can let them use their energy with yours.  I strongly suggest you do not do this exercise while driving though.  Just take a few moments out of your day and work with it.

Try it a few times.  Don’t go hunting for it, let it come to you and observe it.  You could be feeling really sad and all of a sudden Taylor Swift’s song “Shake It Off” comes on and it is their message to not let the small things bother you and to move on.  You could be worried about money and a country song about being broke but having love is your message.  Don’t limit yourself to what you think is possible, give it to them.   The message will make you feel warm and supported not prickly and defeated.  If it feels heavy, it is probably your ego.  Messages from Spirit are nothing but light.

Feel free to contact us about your experience in our Comments box.  We do our best to answer and interact with everybody.  

Don’t forget that The Home of OM offers full range of classes and private sessions teaching you how to communicate with the other side. 

Namaste,

Free Online Card Reading Lesson

There are a ton of different oracle cards out there.  The key is to pick a deck that you like the most, not what others like.  We all have our own individual taste and likes.  Respect your own and others.  This is a journey of self-discovery not other’s discovery. 

Today we are going to use pictures from a deck by Cheryl Lee Harnish.  I have a chosen random card from her three different decks.  I really like her designs as those that are not religious or spiritual people, can still benefit as they are just designs.   The designs are created by factual math.  A form of geometry that is stunningly beautiful.  There is no right or wrong here as everybody sees what he or she sees and that is all right.   Most people don’t find math offensive which makes it a safe deck to use with everybody, even the skeptics. 

What we are going to learn today is how to give different messages from the same card.  When you are just starting out it is ok to use the guidance book to help you out, as that is what it is there for, to guide you.  Our ultimate goal at The Home of OM is for you to trust your own guidance and then you will never feel lost again.   Plus, what if you lose that book?  Does it mean you cannot ever use the deck again?  No.  It means you have to trust yourself.

Let’s look at a card.  Please note that these cards are copy written and being used for Educational purposes only.

As you can tell from this message, Cheryl is a beautifully gifted woman that inspires and wants you to grow from a place of love.  She has a beautiful way of interpreting the design.  But now it is your turn.  What do you see in the card?  Where do you even start with a design this complicated?  You start at the beginning.

First thing to note is simply that you are observing the card.  Don’t try to feel the card or the person you are reading for unless it is you.  We want to keep a clear mind and spirit with out the interference of another’s energy in your space.

Next, does the card feel light or heavy? Not sure?  Use your chakras.  If your bodycould see the card not and just your eyes, would the upper part of your body see it or the bottom half?  If the top half would see it, the card is giving you a light feeling.  If the bottom half “sees” it, then it is giving you a heavy feeling.   Now the time is to ask why?

Next, what I invite you to do is to take note of what colours you notice first after you determine if it is a light or heavy feeling.  Let your eyes look at the card and just notice what you notice.  Do you notice the pinks, the blues, the greens or the purples the most? 

What does that colour mean to you?  See you start with something you know.  Colours.  We all learned about colours.  This means you never have to worry about not getting anything and freezing up in doubt and insecurity because colours are all around you.  I am a colour therapist as well, and all colours carries frequencies.  They carry information to the body and spirit.  What information does the colour that you noticed give to you?  Just tell your sitter the information you are getting.  Ask them if it makes sense to you.  Then move to the next colour. 

Next, once you are done with the colours, move on to movement.  Does the movement look fluid or jagged?  Are there circles or squares?  Do the edges mean hard times or choices and the circles to you mean flow and creation?  Spirals have an interesting symbolism of being in the creation of the universe.  Have fun with it.  Now you have a feeling, a colour with meaning and movement.   You can always create a message from this protocol. 

Now the interesting part is to use the same card here, but with a different person.  It is ok if you do not have somebody different with you in the room.  You can just think of that person.  I will give you an example.

For this card if I think of 2 different people,  and I will get two different observations and meanings.  Let’s take a look.

Warren: Light feeling and notice the colour blue at the bottom first.  Blue is a very safe and calm colour for me.  You grow when you feel safe.  You can expand without fear, but excitement.  I then notice the movement of the circles.  This gives me fluidity and flow.  Tying it together I could say  “this card tells me that Warren is a man that feels safe and calm around you and supports you in your growth.  The pink in the middle of the blue represents compassion for me and the heart in the middle shows me he loves you very much.”  See, don’t try to do everything at once, you will get overwhelmed.  Take little steps then put those steps together.

Let’s do another person.  Say if a person was very stressed and worried.  I will call her Maria.  For Maria I might notice the energy of the same card in the bottom part of my body, giving me a heavy feeling.  The colours I then notice for Maria may be the black not the colours.  I simply ask my guides why I notice the black and not the colours.  Perhaps Maria is concentrating on the negative parts of her life and not the beautiful colours.  So I now will notice what colours I notice the most besides the black.  For Maria I am drawn to that bright pink in the middle of the card and notice that it looks like a heart around it.  I would tell Maria that pink is compassion to me and the pink here is very bright surrounded with love.  “ Maria I felt a heaviness with this card and noticed that I was seeing the dark of the card even though it was very bright around it.  Is there a chance that you are missing some beautiful things in your life because you are concentrating on the bad things?  Here there is great compassion for you and letting you know when you feel dark that you are still very much loved.  When you look at this card do you feel better when you look at the darkness of it or the lightness of it? “.  If Maria responded that she likes the brightness of the card better, it is a good time to remind her to look at the bright things in her life when she feels dark.

One card and two very different meanings for each.  Now you try.

Use 3 people that you know.  If they are open to it, share the information with them and see how you did.  I have a rule that I respect other people’s energy and privacy and do not go into their energy without their permission.  So when you are working alone, I suggest that you go into the energy of your Guides and not the person.  You would not like anybody peeking in your windows, so let’s keep it fair.  Once again this is just how I choose to work.  Others may not and feel it is ok to go into another’s energy without their permission.  I have been taught that by some people and simply did not agree with it.  I allow you to do what feels right to you and most respectful to your Spirit.

Have fun, relax and remember that when you enjoy yourself instead of stress out, you will be more pleased with your results.   The Home of Om offers classes in learning how to connect and private sessions to learn and experience your own talents with our Head Instructor and during the month of September we even have a special on.  Take a look at our Store and feel free to leave comments.

Namaste,

How do I get more specific with my readings?

How do you get more specific readings? Some of the common things people talk about is the need to love oneself more, financial issues and relationship problems, To say to somebody " I feel you need to love yourself more", or " you seem to be stressed about money", or even " they are telling me that you are having problems in a relationship", is all very well and good, but very fluffy. There is no depth to it. They are surface and safe readings that will apply to all.  Below are some tips for the beginner to advance to show you how you can dig deeper.  Be advised that nobody is more advance than another, we all have the same abilities, and just some practice more.

Some have beginning trust and some have advanced trust.

Let’s use the example of you feeling tension in a relationship.  There is nothing real in life till we form a relationship with something.  Otherwise, the energy is just bopping around somewhere minding its own business till it bumps into us or we bump into it.  Then we have a choice on how to react to that energy exchange.  Did we like it?  Did it scare us vs. surprise us?  We then create new energy from the reaction to the interaction with that energy.  Make sense?

Beginner exercise

Tension in a relationship.  Let the sitter pull a card.  Simple.  Gives you a place to start.  There is no denying that when the person draws the card instead of you that their energy about this situation is all over their choice.  To impress them, when you ask if there is tension in a relationship, ask them to just answer yes or no and not give you any more information just yet.  When people are upset or confused they like to talk talk talk.  Don’t let them yet because then they gave you the information and you did not have to talk to Spirit, your Guides and Angels to find the answers to show them that they are not alone.  Let them know you are doing that for them and feeding you information takes that chance away.  When they take the card, simply ask them first if it makes sense.  Most of the time they will understand it.  Take a few deep breaths, look at the picture and tell them what you see first not what you feel.   Describe the card.  You get nervous when you think you have to tell a whole story.  Remember every story starts with the first word so lets narrow it down to a word not a whole book.  You can pick a word right?

Does the energy feel light, dark or confused?  Pick one.  Ask the sitter if they understand your answer.

Next pick another word.  Are the colours and images on the card happy or sad?

Now you take your two words and ask the sitter why they think they chose these cards to describe the situation.  When people are in your space for a reading, most of the time they know the answer, they just want confirmation.  You helped them get it by choosing between a few words.  See you can do this.  Continue this process.

Intermediate and Advanced

Let’s work with the four clairs of working.  So once again there is tension in a relationship.  Do not feel yet.  You are going to get so jumbled in their drama, your fear and get them all muddled up.  We will do that last.  Remember this is about being specific without information.

Clairaudient (clear hearing)

Once again we are going to narrow it down for you instead of trying to figure everything out.

Ask your guides to hear one of these three words:  Friend, Family, or Acquaintance

Your goal is to narrow it down.

Lets narrow it down even more

Ask your guide to hear another word; either CLOSE or FAR

This will denote if the relationship is a close friend or family member or its just bugging them a bit.

Clairvoyant (clear seeing)

Ask to see a colour.  When you see this colour about this tension, simply tell the sitter what that colour means to you and ask them if it makes sense to the issue.  You all know your colours so you will never be left hanging.  Here you know you have something that will never leave you even if nervous.  You will not forget colours.

Clair cognizance (clear knowing)

Ask your guides to just “drop” an answer in your head.  Ask ONE question at a time so your guides can follow your lead.  Simply ask them to let you know if it is bothering your sitter a little or a lot.  Get your answer.  Ask why it is bothering them.  Simply tell them what you are being dropped into awareness of.  Do not doubt yourself.  You don’t know the answer but remember they might not either. There are times where they think it does not bother them much but when you say you think it is more than they know and give them the time to think about it, they will probably agree with you.  Trust me, the energy has to be pretty strong for it to come up in a reading.

Clairsentience (clear feeling) 

Here is a trick.  Do not go into their feelings.  Observe them.  Ask them.  How does it make them feel?  Then ask them how they would like to feel instead?  Get them to talk about their feelings not YOU feeling THEIR feeling.  How can you get to that feeling they want you can ask them?  Everybody is connected to their guides and by asking the questions you are helping them find their answers and not telling them what to do.  You and your sitter will feel better. When you feel somebody else then you have to unfeel him or her.  Some of you do not know how to do this.  Your Guides and Angels do.

There you go everybody.  I hoped this helped you find a way to start with the first words of the book of everybody’s story.  You would get anxious if somebody gave you a 1000 page book and said, “ Here you have 30 seconds to read it and give me a book report”.  But, if the person asked you to read the first sentence and tell them what it said, you could do that with confidence and accuracy. 

One step at a time gets you there.  Remember we see clients privately to help you develop your own abilities that are unique to you.  We can see you live but also do phone readings and Skype anywhere in the world.  Let us know if we can help you find your way to your gifts.

Namaste,