3 Signs You're Raising An Indigo

The world is changing.  Some want this change, and some are fighting it every step of the way.  Those that do not want the world to change will become dinosaurs.  They will fade off and die. The world will be left with us, and our children.  We are the change we want to see in the world.  This means our children are changing too.  Our children are being born more "awake" then we ever were.  "Awake" meaning that they have not forgotten where they are from.  They are born knowing we are all one and almost demand to be treated as such.  It may seem very weird to some of you to think that your 3 year old thinks that they deserve just as much respect as you do.  It is really weird? Do you meditate that we are all one, and ask for world healing, yet when you have an opportunity to show the youngest of our planet this grace, you protest and call them "undisciplined"?  They are saying that they are your equal, and you do not like it.  Let's look at three sure signs you are raising an Indigo that you might have missed as discipline problems.

Hate Being Told What To Do
They believe in freedom for everybody.  They do not like being told what to do because you have taken away their freedom.  They can get very temperamental and even throw things when forced to do something they did not want to.  This can be bedtime in younger children to curfew with older teenagers.    They seem to have a switch that just turns ON and there they go.  How can you avoid this?  Give them options.  Ask your child why they think its a good time for them to have the same bedtime each night.  They will tell you.  If they do not, prompt them, not tell them.  Suggestions for this are  "Are you usually happy or grumpy when you do not get enough sleep?"  This reminds them of the cause and effect.  They are very logical.  Work with that.  "Dont you want to have lots of energy to have fun at school tomorrow or with your friends?"  Let them answer.  For older children, ask for their input so that they are not feeling like a prisoner.  Ask them what they think is a reasonable curfew for instance and pre negotiate what the consequences are if that is broken.  Do this when they are not angry.  Do this when everything is calm.  If they agree to it,  you can let them know that you trust them to follow through with their agreement because you trust their word.

Knows When Anybody Is Lying
Really this is not such a bad thing, it is a great thing you think.... until they know when YOU are lying to them.  They are born in a vibration of truth and most are highly intuitive.  They know the vibration of truth and are just "off" when a lie is told.  They do not trust the person and can call you on it.  They can get so upset that you dared lied to them that they get angry and call you  "A LIAR".  Solution....don't lie.  Be honest, open and explain.   They will respect it.  Even if you said you were going to stop at a store and look for their favourite toy car and you told them they did not have any left.... they will know and call you a liar telling you that you did not even stop.  You are shocked, how could they know.  The better solution is to just tell them that you were tired and that you thought maybe they would like to go with you tomorrow to pick out the perfect one.  He may still be upset, but at least he trusts you.  Losing the trust of your Indigo is detrimental to how they see the world.  For older children,  you have to follow the golden rule.  Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  Again, not such a bad thing.  They hate  one rule for them and one rule for you.    They need solid role models.  Do you tell your teenager how bad smoking is and then ground them but then they see you smoke yourself?  Do you tell them they have to answer your texts but do not get back to theirs in a timely matter?  You yell at them but how dare they yell at you?  Be fair.  Be patient and be the parent you know you can be.  Do not make it, what my father would call.... " A PISSING MATCH".    You will win the fight, but lose the battle every single time.

Has A Hard Time Sleeping
Their mind is hard to stop thinking and dreaming and creating.  They are high energy and you literally have to teach them how to fall asleep.  I have found that a lot of Indigo children and teenagers do better with just their mattress on the ground.  They tell me they feel safer that way.  Try it.   They are thinking of their mistakes they made that day and the mistakes others made.  They tend to be perfectionists and this can cause them to stop trying new things because they are not used to failing.  They feel rejected and take it very hard.  Their mind thinks of ways to improve things in and out of their life and their ON switch is hard to turn OFF.  Young children will love the routine of back rubs and soft music.  Teach them how to fall asleep.  No tv or screen time 45 minutes before bed.  Your brain needs 45 minutes to produce melatonin and if their is light shining in their eye, it signals the brain not to produce this hormone needed to sleep because they eye is screaming "Wait we are still working here!!!" Try buying some lavender oil and put it in a spray bottle with some sparkles and their favourite crystal.  Label it "sleep spray" and spray it before bed on their clothes and pillows.  Their mind will associate that smell with rest and relaxation.  It becomes a good habit.  Now older kids are a bit different.  You may need absolute quiet to sleep but they are the opposite.  They actually sleep better listening to music or with the tv on.  It is background or white noise to them.  It allows them to slowly switch off their mind.  They move from concentrating on the noise instead of thinking to getting tired.  This is not a solution but it helps.  Try asking them to listen to guided meditations at night or hypnotherapy sessions on youtube you  both approve of to help train them.  Trust me, nobody likes not being able to fall asleep.  They can get anxious about sleeping because it is so hard for them.  These kids need to be tired to sleep.  Exercise is important for their sleep, mood and growth.  Lavender oil mixed with some cream, rubbed on their feet helps.  Teach them some breath exercises such as the 4*7*8 to help cut the anxiety and train their brain.  These kids LOVE feeling in control of their choices, so tell them that you are teaching them to control their choice of sleep. 

 Click here to read more about the benefits of 4*7*8 breathing and how to do it

Having an Indigo Child gives you the ability to step up to the plate and be a better person under the microscope of their little hearts.  Rise to it.  They need you.  You need you.  We Need You!

If you need more help with your Indigo child, feel free to contact Angel Rogers who has been trained to deal with Indigos and raised three herself.  Her strategy is to train the parent, not the child, so you are always their hero.  You can book at thehomeofom.ca

What Is The Biggest Mistake Empaths Make?

Empaths.  What are they?  They are people that are more in tuned to others emotions.  They can tell what other people are feeling, by feeling their emotions.  Problem is that Empaths let other people change their feelings.  If you as an Empath are happy, if somebody comes in that is not happy, but angry instead, you let go of your happiness and become angry too.  If somebody is sad, you let go of your joy for their sadness.  Empaths think this makes them a "nicer" and more compassionate person.  Does it really though?    When does trading in joy for anger ever make anybody a better person?

What then happens is Empaths feel too much.  They feel everybody's feelings mixed in with their own.  They begin to lose the ability to tell if an emotion is their own or did they pick up another persons, animals or even an environments energy.  They get overwhelmed.  They feel tired, anxious and sad.  How can you fix what you do not know is broken?  How can you heal what is not sick?  This is the rutt Empaths get into.  They are not feeling well, they try to figure out why, but because it is not their energy, they cannot fix it.  If they cannot fix it, they continue to feel bad.  Then they isolate themselves or withdraw because they just cannot take anymore.  They need their rest.  They need to recover from wounds that are not even theirs.  Most well meaning people will recommend that Empaths "shield" themselves.  This means to protect yourself from other people's emotions by putting a shield around yourself.  The theory is that if you isolate yourself from others so you do not pick up their feelings.

Problem;  How do you feel feelings if you are afraid of them?  How do you protect yourself by putting yourself in a state of fear and low vibration?  How do you celebrate life if you are afraid of it?  By "shielding" yourself you are telling the Universe that you want to experience something to be afraid of.  How can you experience the choice you make to shield yourself without anything to be afraid of?  The universe listens to your decisions without judgement. You are asking them to send you something to protect yourself from. So you get it. You are creating the fear by fearing it.  Thus you are creating your own worse nightmare.  You  are walking around in fear, but then creating it.

You start to try to stop feeling feelings.  The only way to stop feeling pain is to stop feeling all together.  What is a better idea?  Realize that pain can be part of your joy.  Realize that recognizing pain at the first sign of it, you can deal with small issues and not let them turn to big ones you need to protect yourself from.  When you recognize your pain instead of ignoring it, you are more likely to make changes that move you towards joy. See, pain can lead to joy.   Most Empaths do not like confrontation so they let things pile up.  No more.  You are not doing any one a favour by not letting them know they hurt your feelings.  You are not helping them or yourself.  It breeds contempt and resentment.  How do they know they hurt your feelings if you do not tell them?  They are not Empaths.  They do not feel how you do.  Help them out.  Let them know.

Most Empaths feel unappreciated and overworked.  That is because they do so much for others, and do not feel the return.  This is generally because they do not know how to ask for what they want, so never get it.  They wait, and wait and wait.  But if you tell people you are fine, they believe you.  Take responsibility to teach people how to treat you.  You, like all others, have the right to joy.  Your job as an Empath is not to be an emotional toilet bowl for others.

Try this instead.  Instead of closing yourself in out of fear, expand your love instead.  Do not breath in their second hand emotions, but breath out love.  Observe them, do not become them.  If you start "feeling" a feeling that is not yours,  or are not sure if it is, ask.  Ask if it belongs to you or another.  If you had a fight with your sister, it is normal to feel upset.  If everything is fine, but you still feel upset, return the energy to the universe with Love.  Don't  analyze it or try to fix it.. just let the universe do it for you.  Expand yourself, do not try to make yourself disappear.  Grow.  Shine. Breath.  Live .  Do not feel the feeling, ask your intuitive self to hear or know what the other person is feeling instead of feeling it too.  If your friend looks sad, you are not going to help them by being sad too.  Ask your higher self what is going on, or better yet, ask your friend.  Maybe they are not sad at all but just tired.

Empaths are the next generation of the human race.  They are compassionate and strong and care about each other.  Peace, joy and justice is their religion. Everybody has a just right to be at peace, including them.  

Rethink your shield.  Do you want to run and hide, or shine and grow?  Don't just make something a block to your growth, make it a building block.  Climb over and enjoy life again.

Namaste,

Clearing Exercise For Empaths

When we rub a balloon on our head and our hair stands up and sticks to the balloon, we see electricity and atoms in motion.  It is pretty neat how rubbing an object against something else can cause such drastic changes. 

Did you ever think that if your hair can be affected so much, that other parts of you could be as well?  Your hair in just a few seconds can be changed.  Imagine your heart. 

Your heart has the largest magnetic field of any place of your body and is more sensitive than your hair. Are you walking around "rubbing" against people and your heart stands on end but because it is internal you cannot see the dramatic results? What if you could? Would you continue to allow this to happen? Would you go to work with your hair sticking up like that, totally out of your control? Probably not. Let's take a look at a simple, fast, yet effective exercise we suggest you do to help clear your heart energy.

For this exercise you will need a crystal.  Most empaths hold onto other's energies because they do not want to give off negativity to other people, places or even things. They feel it is their job to be a conduit of pain, to take others pain and be the keeper of it till they can absorb it and take it away at any cost to their own joy.  Let me assure you that this is not the case.  Your job is not to take pain, but to evolve into joy.   To be an example of joy and love.  The crystal will help relieve any anxiety of who gets the energy you no longer need.  We will give it back to Mother Earth who will transmute it into peace.  I dont mean to be graphic here, but think of a bathroom.  When you go to the bathroom you flush the toilet right?  You get rid of what your body no longer needs by putting it into a vessel and clearing it.  You are not the world's emotional toilet.  You are a vessel of peace.  Treat and honour yourself, as such and your world will change.

Pick a crystal that you are drawn to for this exercise.  Do not analyze it, just pick it up because your body and your Spirit said you needed that one.  Then find out what that crystal means.  This is where being a beginner is so wonderful because you are totally unbiased and pure in your choice because you do not know what all the crystals mean just yet.   You can look on the internet for amazing sites that explain crystal properties for free.  

Take the crystal and put it in both hands and hold your hands to your heart.  Ask that Spirit, The Universe, God or the Angels, whatever your affiliation may be, to walk with you and help renew you to your original state of peace.  Start with taking 3 deep breaths to calm you.  You do not want to do this with anxiety or stress because then it is released with tension and judgment instead of peace and unity.

This is where you let the crystal and your Higher Self do the work.  You may be holding onto things without realizing it and if you get too specific here and ask for 

"Any terrible energy for Trevor that broke my heart, get out of my heart now!", you are stopping Spirit from clearing out perhaps anxiety that you have carried with you for so many years because your father left you at a young age.  The universe cannot go against your free will so they can only do what you ask and leave the rest.

A better statement is " I ask with much love and gratitude that all things that are not of my doing and being, that is no longer serving me, be released into this crystal as a conduit of peace and compassion.  I give it back to Mother Earth and the Divineness that lives in me,  honours the ability to transmute this energy back into peace"

Imagine little pieces of energy in whatever colour the crystal is, in your body.  See the crystal as a magnet and it is calling all pieces, wherever they may lay in your body, back to it.  Think of it as an emotional vacuume. You know you are done when there are no more flickers of energy of that crystal colour in your body that you can see.  Take the crystal from your heart and run it under cold water for a few minutes and see the energy running back to Mother Earth.   If your crystal is compatible with sunlight, place it in the sun for the day to charge it.  If it is not, use moonlight instead.  Either or, is all right.  

That's it.  Simple, effective yet powerful.  You can do this.  If you are extremely anxious and overwhelmed you may feel the need to do this twice a day.  After that you can do it only when you need to.  

We hope this helped you understand that you are not an emotional dumping zone and to respect your place in the world, even if others do not yet.  

Namaste,

New Dark Moon - Feb 18, 2015

We are all affiliated with the energy of the moon.  It moves us, it affects us and the cycles of the moon represent different things at different times.  Today’s new moon is a special one:  A DARK MOON.  This means there is no sun reflecting on it today so it seems dark in our sky.  Todays moon falls in 29 degrees Aquarius and falls in Aquarian Decan 3 and falls in what is called Delta Hydrus in Hydrus, the male water snake, a constellation that slithers by the South Pole.  It is also the closest moon of the year so it is a SUPER, DARK, NEW MOON!  The next super moon does not occur till March 2015.  This new moon falls in the 29th degree of Aquarius. It marks a moment right before the Sun transitions into the magical, empathetic and caring sign of Pisces (quite literally since the Sun enters Pisces approximately two minutes after it takes place).  It is a chance to find parts of your belief systems that create your personality that you want to change, and change them for good. It is a chance to be kinder and gentler to yourself while still making amazing changes. 

In Astrology, the 29th degree is the last degree of a sign and it marks a significant turning point.  So many of you are at that tipping point of trying to make a change and just being the change.  The “change” becomes permanent and no longer something you have to strive for. Aquarius is about thinking more than just yourself but thinking more in a universal viewpoint and this allows you to let go of fear of the ego.   This helps you to not be afraid to do the things you want to do and get them out of thought and into action and really sets the stage for the next 6 months.  It is where you can create Magic in this moon and create the life you want to live.  The new moon in 29 degrees in Aquarius makes what seems impossible, possible, creating the right space for things to happen and synchronicities with the universe.  Meditate tonight on life purpose as the new Super moon brings in an acute awareness to energy, so take advantage of it.

This makes new moon energy perfect for making changes that last.  Changing the foundation of belief systems so you are not “faking it till you make it”.  The dark new moon means there is a fresh start; you are planting in a fresh field.  You have peace and serenity, no weeding and no snakes to attack you.  You can take your time and be in thought to sow new seeds of intention no matter what you planted before.

This is the second new moon in Aquarius and it is something very special.  Where the moon is in with the tipping point in Pisces you can make radical changes that last as Pieces rules the ridding of the old.  Items you can use during this new moon to help set an alter of intent are: clear quartz to clear your energy and connect you, black onyx to help ground you in the field of positive changes, lavender or sandalwood oil and flowers.

I am not an astrologist, but thanks to Crystal Bichalski's article, here are some of her thoughts on how this Super Moon will affect your specific Astrological sign.

Aries: Your magic is coming from within or something secretive with this Supermoon. The hidden sector of your life is being highlighted and this is a good time to take a step back and get to know the real you. Opportunities or awareness could begin that help you make some sort of psychological breakthrough which could be ever so freeing. Secrets could come out or you might find yourself hanging out with someone in secret. Some new awareness or event could stem that comes totally out of the blue or in an unexpected way.

Taurus: Time to make some magic on the social scene! This is a great time to be with friends or embark upon creating a new group of some sort. Some new information or awareness about a group you belong to may reveal itself. You may also find that a lot of new invitations to various events start coming your way.

Gemini: If you’ve been looking for a new job or someone to tell you that you’ve been doing a good job—this Supermoon magic could deliver. Something brings you into the public eye or puts you at the forefront of people’s mind. You will likely find yourself in a more public place or in a spot where others are looking upon you—in a good way. You’ve likely worked hard to get to this point so embrace it!

Cancer: Your magic could take you on a new spiritual journey, a long distance trip or begin the planning of one. Matters involving higher education (including new jobs), in-laws and things of a foreign nature could also come to the surface. If you’ve been thinking about going back to school—this is a great time to do so. The educational and teaching realm in your personal astrology is heightened now.

Leo: Your magic can be found in the realm of intimacy, help from other people, investments and inheritance/legacy themes . A new intimate/sexual relationship could begin or you have a new sexual encounter. Matters of deep nature may surface and you could begin to make discoveries about things you’ve hidden on a subconscious plane. The possibility of a financial gift of some sort could also surface.

Virgo: Close and personal relationships—including business partnerships are your focus. This Supermoon magic could deliver a marriage proposal or an initiation to embark upon some sort of new partnership. An offering of some sort could be on the table. If you own your own business you may find more clients initiating services from you.

Libra: The push to get a little more organized in your daily life could overcome you. Spring cleaning could come a little early for you this year. This is also a great time to embark upon a new routine or start something new at work. Perhaps a new project comes about or you are more involved with a co-worker. If you’ve been thinking about getting a pet, this Supermoon could deliver the magic you need to make the move and commit.

Scorpio: Creative energy is off the charts for you. If you’ve been looking for some personal inspiration this is a magical zone for you to tap into. You might also feel yourself very connected to your children—especially your oldest. It’s time to have a little fun, let loose and maybe even embark on a new romance or love fest.

Sagittarius: Matters of your home, family, personal environment and real estate are your Supermoon focus. Maybe you find yourself in a new home or involved in something new regarding one of your parents. This is also a great time for you to self-examine your roots/spiritual foundation and become very connected with yourself. Your magic touches the realm of karma and past lives in your personal astrology—be aware of new people you’re meeting. You might feel like you already know them from somewhere.

Capricorn: This Supermoon is affecting your communications realm and you may find yourself in some new types of communications (including all things gadgetry!). New learning activities could also be heightened. A quick trip—even purchasing a new car or mode of transportation could come about. Something new involving a sibling, cousin or aunt or uncle could crop up. If you’ve been waiting for news—this could be the time it’s finally delivered.

Aquarius: Things that you value or possess are a central theme of this Supermoon. Thoughts about your financial resources may come into prime focus. You may begin thinking about what you need to do in order to acquire more assets or use your current resources to meet your goals. A new opportunity to make more money or gain a new possession could be in the beginning stages.

Pisces: It’s time for you to come out from behind the scenes and let people see your special magic front and center. Personal emphasis, how you project yourself and self-focus are key for you. With your birthday already here or quickly approaching, this is a great time to start thinking about you and I know that’s quite difficult since you likely put others first! Start thinking about a new health regimen, improving your look (time to go shopping!) or taking steps to improve you.

Namaste,

Psychic Vampire’s Class [Free Download]

Psychic Vampires or energy drainers, chances are you have a few in your life.  They hide at work, at home, school and even those passing by.  How can you tell if you have an energy drainer around?  Simple, look in the mirror.  You are your own drainer.  There is no such thing as a psychic vampire because of one simple universal law.  The Law of Free Will.  Nobody can take from you, but you can give to them then complain about it.  I am not denying that you feel drained around these people, but I am questioning as to why.

Let’s look at some common misconceptions about Psychic vampires from a website.  Characteristics Of The Host (The Energy Vampire’s Victim).  An individual who’s life force energy is being drained by an energy vampire will often feel the following:

Tired.  Yes it takes a lot of energy to judge somebody as negative all the time.

Bored.  You were born to create love not negativity so yes your body will react to creating what is not from a higher source so you stop it and move.

Lack of Motivation. When you are creating nothing good, your Spirit disengages from creation until you change your thought pattern to create something good.

Become Irritated.  Grumpy people judge all day and use their energy for condemning people.  You reap what you sow.

Overwhelmed.  Yep it is hard for you to not be in your natural state of love and peace.  So when you are going against your grain, you are often overwhelmed because you are fighting your natural being.

Disoriented.  Not knowing who you are and where your motivation is coming from, joy or fear can set your inner compass off.  I am glad blaming others feels bad.

Depressed or Feel Out of Sorts (even after a brief encounter).  How sad it is for your soul that just wants to love and be loved to judge if a person is attacking them or they person you think is a vampire is just having a hard go of it right now.  Instead of reaching out with love and observing them and not taking it SOOOOO personally,  YOU are acting negatively.  You judge, you shield, you take it personally, you protect, you throw shots back, and you change your make up from love to fear.   I would feel out of sorts too if I was created from the highest and purest blood line that there is.  The Universe and your God is in your bloodline.  You are stronger than what you label VAMPIRE.

If this makes more sense to you than you lost your free will and are meant to suffer around this person or event and would like other options, click the link below and it will take you to a free downloadable class from our head instructor about the truth behind “psychic vampires”.  Let’s shed some light on the topic shall we?

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Namaste,

Help I am an Empath and it Hurts!

As men and women that are trying to function in a day-to-day life in this busy world, we come into contact with other people all the time.    If you have ever been told you are an Empath, meaning you can feel and sense others emotions, then you know sometimes it can get too be too much. 

Take a look at the picture above and choose the picture that you feel describes you the best.  Below we will discuss what each choice can mean and a message for you on where you might channel your energies.

Hand holding on to FIRE

You may be an angry empathic.  You got very tired of it hurting so much that you decided to fight back.  Justice and fairness are very important to you and you will fight for the little guy, because you identify with them so much.  You probably started by becoming sarcastic to reflect the pain and cover it up with a joke, but then you became sarcastic more and more until it turned to anger.  You may now have a short fuse, hate explaining yourself and police other's activities.  That is the bad part.  The good news is that you would be amazing to help others find their own voice.  When you rescue them they find your voice not their own. 

The key here is to remember that you got hurt before you got angry.  Address the hurt not the anger.  People deal better with hurt people than angry people.  Allow yourself to be venerable with the right people.  Most Empaths are telepathic and can sense and read other peoples thoughts.  Remember that others cannot and it is vital that you take the time to actually talk and communicate with them.  Soothe the root chakra so it does not have to be so defensive and use the 4-7-8 breathing techniques.

The Isolated Monkey

Oh my dear little Empath.   You have such a gentle soul and you are not a fighter.  It hurts when you watch TV shows that have violent and when you see a sad picture, it can physically hurt your heart.  When you saw the monkey you probably thought AWWW and just wanted to pick him up and cuddle him to tell him everything is going to be all right.   You my friend get overwhelmed and need your down time away from it all.  This is a beautiful thing to do, just make sure you do not do it too much that you start to not like people because you cannot control your emotions.

Have compassion yes, but wounding yourself and hiding is not the answer.   Make sure you get out and interact with people that do what you love.  Find a hobby and join others in it.  Most isolated Empaths like to read, well find a book club.  If you are going out and feel overwhelmed simply breath out love instead of taking in second hand emotions.  Expand yourself with love instead of hiding in fear.  Fear attracts fear and love attracts love.   You are amazing at getting others involved and including them.  Getting the wallflowers off the wall is your gift.  You will do it gently and passionately.  It’s ok little monkey, you can come play.

Praying Kitten

The people pleaser.  Please, please, please like me.  You are busy running around living everybody else’s life, trying to make sure everybody else is happy that you forgot to make yourself happy.  You do not respect your boundaries and say yes when you say no.  This makes you resent the people you say yes to when you should say no.  You will feel unappreciated and taken advantage of.  Please love yourself.  You would do amazingly well  volunteering so you can hear THANK YOU more often and feel appreciated.  You make great teachers and leaders but have to let people fall down sometimes so they can learn to stand up or you will be taking care of them the rest of their lives.  The best thing we can give somebody is trust in themselves.   A great tip for Empaths is being able to draw a line in their giving.  Try this:   “I can’t _________________ (whatever they are asking you to do that you don’t want to do), but I can do _________________________, (something you are more comfortable with).”  For example; “I can’t take your dog all week but I can take them Friday night and Saturday”.  You offered to help but stayed in your limit and now you will be happy to help out.  Let people adjust to the new you.  Those that like taking advantage of you will try to make you feel bad, it’s ok.  Watch them, bless them and then bless yourself.  Pleasing yourself is more important than pleasing them. 

Guilty

Everything is your fault.  No matter what you do, you feel it is not enough.  You may even surround yourself with people that take advantage of you and blame you.  Your throat chakra is probably pretty closed and you do not know how to communicate what you need.  You suffer in silence and it is time to stop saying it is ok to hurt you.  It physically hurts you to watch pictures of people suffering because you feel you personally have to save them.  I am sorry, but these Empaths are the types that would stay in abusive relationships trying to SAVE the other person.   You have a very tender heart and would work amazingly with children and animals because you feel safe with them and they will not hurt you.  You would be free to love in these cases.   Learn to accept responsibility for what is yours and for what is NOT yours.  Take baths in Epson salts as the magnesium helps with the anxiety.  When you go to bed at night instead of thinking of everything bad or wrong that went on, start imagining again.  Think of how amazing it would feel to be doing what you love to do.  Problem is most of these Empaths are so busy with what everybody else wants they do not know what makes themselves happy anymore.  Explore this at night.  Play instead of worry.

One of the biggest mistakes I see Empaths do is Protecting and Shielding themselves.  Why is this a mistake?  Tune into the radio show to find out what to do instead.

We hope this helped.  If you would like more information on coping tips for Empaths, please check out our TRUE2YOU radio show for a free class.  Live call in show is this Sunday January 10.

Namaste,

New Years Resolutions: Little Tricks that make A BIG difference

January 1st, what a special day.  It is a day where we welcome in the new and get rid of the old.  Resolutions are famous to be made this day and next week is even more famous to break them.  Why do we make them?  We want to make changes we really do, but then why don’t we? 

Most people are striving to better themselves and their lives and that is a great goal.  The reason why most resolutions fail is that you reach too far too fast.  If you love sweets and you say,  “ I am going to cut out all sugar starting NOW”, is that realistic for you? Are you setting yourself up for failure by being too hard on yourself? When a resolution seems like a punishment not a reward, you do not want to do it.  The little rebel in you says, “ You cant tell me what to do” and grabs the candy or the latte.  What if you instead tell yourself to educate yourself about sugar and cut back?  The human mind does not like to fail and our fragile ego punishes itself when we fail and we give up.  What if you set little goals and met them instead?  The mind would celebrate your daily victory instead of punishment.  Just a side note, those that want to get off sugar, understanding what it is really doing to you is the best bet.  Don’t try to force yourself not to like it, it works better when you do not want it.  Check out YOUTUBE and the documentary BIG SUGAR.

Let’s start you out by some simple things that will make a big difference in your life.  They are simple, but need consistency and awareness. 

1. Take 3 deep breaths 3 times a day.  What this does is it starts telling the reptilian part of your brain that everything is all right.   This part of your brain is responsible for that fight or flight mechanism. Try it out and tell yourself while you take those three deep breaths that everything is all right.  You are being aware of your mind and your thoughts and programming a sense of wellness and safety instead of doubt and fear.  Your body will thank you for it.
2. Stop complaining.  Once you become aware of how much you are complaining you will understand how your thoughts create your reality.  Most of you reading this will think that you do not complain often at all, and will be surprised how it creeps into your life.  A good idea is to let somebody close to you know you are trying to not complain so they can help you when you slip up.  This does not mean you do not have a right to question or ask for information, but no whining while you do it.  Be fair, be concise and tolerant.
3. When you wake up drink a big glass of cold water.  First your body is dehydrated when it wakes up, and hydration is key to functioning and gives you more energy.  It also flushes out toxins.  When you sleep your body repairs itself and balances out hormones.  The result is some stuff that is no longer needed needs a way to get out of your body.  You will think well as it refuels your brain.  Your brain is 75% water so drinking more feeds it.

I am not asking you to change your world because the calendar flipped over.  All you have to do is breath, stop complaining and drink a glass of water.  You can do that right?  You will live longer, be happier and feel a sense of satisfaction every day.  Being a better you is being kinder to yourself, not punishing yourself.  You can do it.  After all you are awesome already. 

Happy New Year!

Namaste,